Top Ten Mistakes Men Make in Online Dating…
Online dating is fast becoming the preferred avenue for meeting new women for many men, as it takes the fear of rejection, the time & cost of going out, and the problem of finding attractive women near you all out of the loop.
But while some men are having great success in meeting or picking up women online others have almost no success at all!
After over 4 years in the online dating arena and going from women ignoring my e-mails to where I have now dated and hooked up with many women that I have met online and I now have women contacting me (on a daily basis) that want to get to know me better. I want to share with you some of the biggest mistakes men when trying to meet & date women online.
1. Looking in the wrong places. Some sites are absolute crap and total rip offs. The site makes all of the difference in the world. I did terrible on traditional dating sites and even worse on adult (sex) dating sites. So I looked for new places and found my ideal niche for dating success. For me Myspace is King and while I have had success on other sites I think it the best place to meet women online.
2. Having a lame profile. A lot of men put very little or almost no effort into their profile. There is almost no text telling about themselves, nothing of any interest at all. This makes them look boring and unattractive, unless you look like Brad Pitt or just happen to be her physical type.
3. Bad pictures or the wrong type of pictures. You must have good pictures, and picture that make you look attractive. Now this does not mean that you use fakes, or old pictures that don’t look like you do now. I have seen some guys that put up a picture of them 20 years ago then you click on their pictures and they look 20 years older and 30 lbs fatter what a joke! Be honest with who you are and be confident, there are women that like older men and women that like fat men, beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. Just good clear picture that make you look the best you can.
4. Saying the wrong things in their opening e-mail. I have had women friends forward to me e-mails that guys have sent me and I’ll tell you must guys are either pathetic and pine over the woman kissing her ass or are total jackasses and make crude sexual advances. Neither of those approaches will work.
5. Emailing her too many times or too often. Even if you first response it positive that does not mean you should email her several times that day unless you are involved in a conversation. And e-mailing her if see she has read your message to find out why she never got back to you is a big no-no.
6. Trying to rush things and get instant results by trying to meet her too soon. There are times you can meet her right away and times that trying to will kill your chances with her. You have to learn when these times are and act accordingly and then set the tone for the meeting. But generally the more time you spend talking online the quicker you will hook up with her in person.
7. Treating all women the same. There are different types of women, and they respond to different approaches. You must learn what type goes with what approach. I have hooked up with very sexual women and very conservative women each required a different approach.
8. Blowing it in person. When I first started meeting women online the first meeting often felt awkward. Sometimes I would try to hard, or blow it with something I said or did, or it just didn’t go anywhere. All of these problems are the result of meeting too soon, before enough rapport or attraction is established. Once you have built rapport and attraction meeting in person is a breeze and almost always leads to hooking up.
9. Not sticking to it long enough. Many men try online dating and when they don’t have instant result or it does not work right away they give up. They try only one approach, one kind of site or one version of profile text, or one kind of look and then give up if they don’t get instant results. Sometimes you have to try different things, new pictures, new text, different sites, different types of women etc..
10. Falling for Fakes & Scams. There are a lot of fake profiles, fake girls and scams you have to watch out for. The most common is when a girl e-mails you but tell you to contact her on another site. On free sites like Myspace and Hot or Not, there is absolutely no reason for her to do this because you are already on a free site. The person sending you this is 90% of the time a man that gets paid for every person that signs up at the other site. Maybe 10% of the time it’s woman but she is also doing it for the commission as well and has no interest in meeting you at all. Tell these people that you’re not that dumb and report there account for abuse, then delete them. There are other scams and cons as well but I’ll save that for another time.
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