Nico’s Online Dating, Pickup & Seduction Blog.

If you read part one you will know that I feel the worst places to meet women online are adult dating/sex sites. Right above them being the second worst places to meet women online are traditional dating sites. Yes that’s right the 2nd worst place I have found to meet women online are traditional dating sites.

I have tried several Match.com, Yahoo Personals, American Singles. I did not have much success on any of those and I’ll tell you why.

Why Dating Sites Suck:

They cost money. That’s right why do I want to spend the money to meet women online when I can do it for free? Especially when the place that is charging is not the best place to meet women online.

There are not that many attractive women on them. The women on dating sites tend not to be as attractive. They are older, heavier and not all that hot for the most part. Sure there are some cute girls on there and half of them are fake profiles set up by marketers and you want me to pay for that? I have yet to see any woman on an Eharmony commercial that I would ever want to date.

Many of the women on these sites are the walking wounded. They have been hurt and are looking for the man of their dreams. Too much hassle and too much baggage to deal with.

Just being on a dating site makes you less attractive. When a woman sees you on a dating site you are already less attractive to her just because you are on a dating site ( even though she is also on there too, you can’t reason with the part of a woman that makes her attracted to you.) The reason for this is that women like men that are not looking for sex or a relationship for the most part. The fact you are in there looking in the first place works against you it turns her off on a subconscious level and even on a conscious level she is thinking if he is so great why is he on here?

She is being bombarded by other men’s e-mails. Men out number women on dating sites and it’s even worse if she is attractive. Her mailbox is full and it might take a while for her to get back to you

Too Censored & Restrictive. On dating sites they censor everything way to much, you can’t be yourself. You can’t use expletives such as “Fuck”, “Shit”, “Cock”, “Bitch”, “Pussy” etc… That’s fine if you don’t use that language, but if you do like I do it limits your freedom of expression. You can’t post blogs that show your personality. You are limited to filling out their little survey and being a nice guy, you can’t be edgy or cool.

Remember women like bad boys, NOT nice guys (no matter what they say) and dating sites force you to present an image of a nice guy and it works against you.

This is the number one reason why I have never had good success on a dating site. Women contact me all day long and tell me how much they like my profile, my blog, my pics. All of which would not be allowed on a dating site.

For example my main profile picture that I previously used (which got me laid many times) was rejected by every dating site I tried. So I said screw this I am done with dating sites I’ll stay with what is FREE and works for me. So the second worse place to meet women online is on dating sites!

Now if you are in your 40’s 50’s and looking to meet a women not based on looks like the people on the Eharmony commercials you might have some success on traditional dating sites, but if your in the 18 – 35 range I would say don’t make them your main focus or stay away all together as there are much better places online to meet women which I will tell you about in my next blog entry.

-Nico Simon Princely

While advertisers and affiliate marketers would like for you to believe that the best place to meet women online is adult dating sites. It has been my personal experience that they are not the best place online to meet women. More correctly for me personally they have been the worst place to meet women.

Now I could tell you that adult dating sites are the best place to meet women and put up an affiliate link and send you there and make a nice chunk of change. But then I doubt you would ever listen to anything else I say again, because it’s just not true.

I asked 3 different adult dating sites to give me a free evaluation pass to try it for a month, because if it was good site and I actually met some women I would love to recommend it to my readers. Not one of those 3 sites would give me a free pass so I could review their site for my readers. That tells me something right there. But I forked over the money myself anyway and I got zip, nada, zilch!

I have tried adult dating sites 2 different times over the last few years. I became a full member paying up to $35 a month had almost no response to my e-mails, or my profile on one site. Now I would say that maybe the women just weren’t attracted to me except that at the same time I was also getting e-mails from women on other sites that I consistently do well on that were free!

The other adult site that I tried I started to get responses right away from women seeming very interested before I even had a picture up. Which just does not happen! That was a red flag to me telling me something was fishy. Of course I could only read the e-mails if I joined and became a paid full member. Now I am not saying that the site was a scam as those could have been fake profiles or marketers contacting me but in any case real women rarely do that and I was not about to pay another $35 to find out who it was.

To be fair I am willing to evaluate any site and give it a fair shot and if proves worthy I’ll be happy to send them customers. But I will NOT recommend a site that I experience to be a rip off no matter how much money I can make. There maybe be some good adult dating sites out there for men to meet women on but as of this writing I have NOT found one. (If you own or work for a site and want me to review it please contact me)

The problem with these adult dating sites is that they sell it like you just log in and women are waiting to have sex. It’s NOT like that. It no different that any other dating site in that you still have to be attractive to women know how to get her to respond to you and create a connection and rapport.

The truth about these sites is that the men out number the men by a huge margin, the men for the most part are men that have absolutely no social skills what so ever, and contact every women within a 50 mile radius and post up pictures of their Penises as their main pics, which all but a very small percentage of women find a huge turn off. This crap overloads the women’s mailboxes and desensitizes the women to the point of not wanting to write back to anyone or even deal with the site, which is why a lot of the women listed on these sites have not logged in months. You have to also understand that many of the women on these sites signed up as a gag with their girlfriends or when horny one night after a couple of drinks and then changed their mind the next day after they had a reality check.

(Don’t forget that hot young women men all of the time in real life and don’t need to go to a dating site for sex. Men approach them all day long everyday! Some may go to a dating site when they want more than sex but for sex most would just go to a club, unless they are into something like BDSM or something that is hard to find in person.)

Most of the hot young women on these sites are either fake profiles put up by people trying to get you to join other sites (this is no fault of the site and these profiles are on all sites these days even the ones I do well on) or girls that are looking for other girls to hook up with.

The women I found in the chat rooms are that will actually talk to you are women that are older, and BBWs (Big Beautiful Women = Fat chicks)

If you are into older women or BBWs or just looking for anything with a hole in it, I am sure you might do ok on these kinds of sites.

But if you are like me and like thin attractive young women this is the worst place to meet women online and it’s not worth your time, effort or money as there are much better places for you to meet women online.

If you are gay or bisexual you might also hook up. I am not either so I personally have no experience in that area on adult sites and can’t offer an opinion on that.

On the other hand if you are a horny woman you can find a guy on there very easily. If you are a woman looking for another woman, a couple looking for a man, a couple looking for a woman, adult dating sites might actually be a good place to meet people for you.

But for now I am going to stay way from these types of site and concentrate on sites that give me a much greater ROI (return on investment.)

I welcome your comments & stories of your experiences with these kinds of sites.

-Nico Simon Princely

To be continued….

In Part 2 I will tell you the second worst sites I have found to meet women on and I’ll be you tried them before or you are on there right now )