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Anonymous Wrote:

“What to tell her the first time I meet a woman, how to meet her first, what to write to make her respond, in fact, pretty much
everything concerning how to get into a relationship. I am 24 year old guy…A virgin, never had a girlfriend before, scared of what
to tell a girl….just a NOVICE when it comes to relationship…So please, tell me all I need to know when trying to meet a woman”

Hi Anonymous,

This actually goes beyond the scope of online dating which is what this site & newsletter is about. If it has not happened for you by 24 and you want it to then it means there are some real issues that need to be handled beyond what to say in your opening e-mail or how to get her number.

Because even if you get her to meet you the odds are you will blow it in person. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age if that is what you choose but if you want to start being sexually active and the thought “God! I need to get laid!” is always entering your mind it’s time to do something about it as you don’t want to end up a 30 or 40 year old virgin.

I was virgin until I was 21 myself. I was a late bloomer could hardly talk to women that I did not know and could not approach
women in high school. In fact in high school I had one date and it was terrible I had no clue about how to act around girls.

I had girls that liked me off and on but I was always to timid to make a move or they were girls I was not that into or they were not perfect.

I made out with a girl for the first time when I was 18 a few months later I could have had sex with her also, but I chose not to because I was not that into her. I few months later I could have had sex with another girl we did everything but intercourse because I didn’t have a condom. I choose to wait again.

When I was 21 I was tired of waiting and a girl I knew (she was 18 and pretty hot) that was into me came over after my birthday party and I had sex for the very first time.

Which lasted for all of 30 seconds…lol 10 minutes later we did it again and she was blown away because I had red so much about sex
that I did not seem like a virgin. We saw each other a few more times and had sex before it ended.

My point of telling my story is it’s ok to wait until you are ready but when you are ready you need to do something about it and if you can’t do it on your own no matter what reason is you might need some help to get things going, once the ball is set in motion the right way it will get easier and easier.

The reason I say the right way is you don’t want to get lucky you want to be a man and be able to attract women and take it to a sexual level so that you know how to do it and you can do it again with other women when ever you choose.

Now online dating can play apart in this but you might be in need of something more in depth like my “Virgin to Man” program, where I work with guys one on one or in a group (if I have enough guys) in person and help then remove all obstacles in their way and then teach them the skills they need to become a man and attract women.

I have both online and in person versions of this and I have to be honest this works much better in person. If you want more info on my program e-mail me.

But in the mean time I have a few suggestions for you…

1. Don’t worry about being a virgin or feel insecure about it. Having sex is just another one of lifes great experiences that you have not experienced yet. Just like jumping out of an airplane and skydiving, eating foods you have never tried before or taking up a new sport. It’s nothing less or more than that.
2. Some men feel you should hide the fact that you are a virgin because it might be a turn of to some women that like an experienced man. But I don’t agree. The girl I lost my virginity to knew I was a virgin and she was on mission to take my virginity from me.
    In fact many women would love to take be a mans first and these women will also be much more understanding because they know it’s your first time.
   So I would suggest that you never hide it and if asked openly tell women that ask that you are a virgin and tell them yo view it a just another experience that you have no had yet, like skydiving or driving 150 Mhp in a Lamborghini on the autobahn in Europe.
3. Learn as much as you can about sexual performance and technique so that you will be confident and have at least some idea of how to please your partner when you do have sex for the first time. Start with my Greatlover 101 course and I also suggest my e-books sold at http://www.greatlovers.com and at http://www.femaleejaculations.com
4. If a women laughs or does not like that you’re a virgin she was the wrong one for you and there is no loss there at all, you just weeded out a woman that was not right for your first time.
5. Most peoples both men and women’s first time suck or are disapointing. Trust me it will get better and better if you learn how to be a great lover!

 I am sorry that I can’t give you more info but your situation is not something that can be solved in a single e-mail.

I hope this helps and as always my goal is your success,

Nico Simon Princely

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The Top Internet Dating Scams You Should Look Out For.

Ok, I have run into several dating scams over the last couple of weeks and while as a seasoned veteran of online dating I was not sucked into any of them, I am sure a lot of newbies do fall prey to these scams. So my goal here is to educate and inform you so you can avoid them.

I have already covered how to spot a fake so I am not going to cover that here but instead I am going to cover other scams that cost you money or the scammer profits from at your expense one way or another.

SCAM #1 The “Help me I need can’t pay my rent!” Scam!

Ok a very attractive woman on my friends list on myspace that I had talked to once or twice in the past about a year ago sent me this e-mail.

Her:

“I know its rude to ask but I am hurting financially after the holidays. Is there any way I could borrow from you and pay you back in a week? I only need like $40.00 bucks to top off my rent before Tuesday. I promise to give it back the following Monday. If there is anything else I can do to show my appreciation I will. Let me know if you can help me out.

Kisses,
(Name Censored)

Now had never had this happen before so I played along so I could see where this was going and replied…

“Have we ever met?

And how many people did you ask this?

How would I get the money to you?”

Her:

“It has been a long long time but yeah we met back when ICE was open. I bartended there. I asked about a dozen friends on my list but apparently they seem to be fair weather friends or guys that just want in my pants and nothing more. If you could do a bank transfer tomorrow I can get it back to you by the weekend and maybe take you for lunch to show my appreciation.”

Right here I knew it was a scam because of the “Bank Transfer” so I replied…

“You don’t have any close personal friends (in person friends) that you can ask?

There would be no point in doing a bank transfer because there is a $10.00 to $20 wire fee on both sides.

To be completely honest this sounds like a scam, like someone hacked into some girls account and is trying to scam her friends list. This kind of stuff is very common on the net these days. I doubt you will find anyone that you do not know personally to help you out.

If you are 100% for real and want to meet in person (So I can see you are 100% for real) and $40.00 is all that stands in your way from being kicked out of your apartment. I’ll help you out. I am not rich and it’s tight for me right now also, but I think I can spare $40.00. Maybe you can loan me some DVD’s or something till you pay me back.”

That put an end to that and I never heard back from the scammer. Now this was probably someone that had phished her account (using a fake myspace login page to get her account information) and was now working her friends list for money. If the girl had been real and in need she would have taken me up on my offer to meet me in person as she is local to me. So watch out for any women asking you for money online and even if they are real why would you give them any money if you don’t even know them.

Also most of the time if you loan a woman money even if you know her you will never get it back. Women pull this shit on men all of the time. Also don’t loan your jackets or clothes to women because often they keep it. They collect it and keep it like trophies of how well they can manipulate men. Of course this does not apply to REAL friends or your girlfriend if you have one well actually come to think of it you usually don’t get any money back from your girlfriend either…lol

SCAM #2 A More Personal Approach

This one actually happened to me on Hot or Not just recently. This is a new twist on the fake profile. We have all seen the fake profiles where you e-mail them and then they e-mail you back asking you to contact them on some other site where their nude pictures are or where they have a profile.

They have a profile where you are right now so there is no reason to talk to them on some other site. Now talking to them on yahoo or some other messenger actually is good sometimes and I actually recommend it so you can have an uninterrupted conversation or even go cam to cam and some women will ask you to chat on a messenger, but usually you will have to ask them first.

This is how the scam works…

You get an e-mail like the one below from a very attractive woman (usually with only one picture.)

“Hello! Nico babe just wanted to say hi and i liked ur profile!If u wanna know more about me im on ScammingAsshole@yahoo.com looking foward to hearing from u”

So then you add them and this is what the chat went like…

Me: (1/15/2008 2:55:02 AM): hey

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 2:55:05 AM): hey whatsup

Me: (1/15/2008 2:55:29 AM): Just got back from a party how about you?

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 2:55:39 AM): ya im a little bored have off of work today

Me: (1/15/2008 2:55:56 AM): Where are you located?

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 2:56:02 AM): i work for a fashion design company

Me: (1/15/2008 2:56:42 AM): That’s not what I asked?

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 2:56:49 AM): about to go on cam

As soon as she said “about to go on cam” I knew it was a scam. And she is not even directly responding to my questions, just cutting and pasting a script it seems like. But I thought I’d play along.

Me: (1/15/2008 2:57:13 AM): ok

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 2:57:34 AM): im entered in a fashion and talent contest and figured well chat there as your rating means alot to me

WTF? She already is telling me she wants something from me.

Me: (1/15/2008 2:58:07 AM): where?

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 2:58:19 AM): k what color thongs u think black or pink? im tryin to decidelol

At this point I whipped it out and started stroking it. NOT!!! She just confirmed my suspicion that it was a scam. But I thought I’d play along.

Me: (1/15/2008 2:58:30 AM): black

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 2:58:40 AM): k lol k ill put them on for you

Me: (1/15/2008 2:59:59 AM): ok

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 3:00:24 AM): just tell me when you see the secret code box i’ll set you up, plz dont give the code out to anyone plz babe www.Nameofscamsite.com/

Ok I know it’s a cam for sure at this point.

Me: (1/15/2008 3:01:26 AM): And your point is?

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 3:01:54 AM): k thnx,put in adminpass09 in secret code box then on the next page it should say ur charge is $0.00, let me know when ur on the second page

Me: (1/15/2008 3:02:36 AM): Being that I just got back from INTERNEXT and I send traffic to cam sites that pay me $45 – $100 a sign up. I’ll pass.

Me: (1/15/2008 3:02:58 AM): I don’t have time for this scam.

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 3:03:25 AM): u just need cc to verify age u can use expired one if u want dosnt matter, just make sure u uncheck the black box on the bottom so it automatically cancels out after 2 days.let me know when ur in so i can show u where im at on my cam

Ok so you can see they are not even reading what I am saying I told them I also send traffic to cam sites (but I do it ethically I don’t deceive people and waste their time.)

Me: (1/15/2008 3:03:42 AM): What are you in india cuting and pasting

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 3:03:53 AM): let me know when u login babe k?

Me: (1/15/2008 3:04:00 AM): Get Lost

Scamming Asshole: (1/15/2008 3:04:09 AM): brb 1sec gotta restart cam u commin?

I logged out and deleted her/him/it from my list and reported the profile to Hot or Not. You should always report these kinds of profiles so the site can clean up the system.

The funny thing is I got another e-mail from another girl with a different picture and different yahoo messenger account, but the same name and a telling me she is into fashion design also about 5 minutes later. Obviously they are using the same scripts. And they target people that they can see are online.

Don’t fall for this crap. If you want to sign up for a cam girl chat I’ll give you some links to the best web cam sites on the web and you aren’t charged unless you want a private chat.

But don’t fall for these scams or ever buy anything that you find out about from a fake profile because you will only encourage them to keep doing it.

Even if you want what they offer don’t go through their link. This also applies to spam never buy anything from unsolicited spam that you did not subscribe to.

SCAM #3 The Revenge Scam.

Several years ago when I first got started in this online dating thing I was much more gullible and got scammed by someone’s revenge scam.

I met some girl (fake) on some site I can’t remember it now we talked and she said she wanted to hook up. Told me her address and how to get there sent me a bunch of pictures.

But she said her phone didn’t work so I was a bit skeptical, but I have hooked up with girls I met online without ever talking on the phone so I thought I’d give it a shot I was bored anyway.

So I drive to her apartment (at like 3:30 am) which was in an area I did not know so it took me a while to find it. I part walk up to the door so there is a big sign in the window that says “If you are from the internet, you got scammed, someone is harassing me and sending people to my house, I have notified the police, DO NOT KNOCK.”

I realized I just got scammed and by the looks of it so have a lot of other men or that sign would not have been there. I then went home and the scammer was still on the messenger and asked if I was coming or not. I decided not to let this scamming loser with no life have the satisfaction. I told them the pics weren’t mine and that I was a fake…lol and that I was 14 know I would not be coming. I bet they felt just as stupid as I did.

Here are a few rules to help you avoid scams:

1. If she does not have a phone to talk on she might be fake, but not always.
   
   
2. Always meet her at a public location for her and your safety unless you have been talking to her for a really long time and seen her on cam.
   
   
3. Meet her in normal times of day or evening a real woman is not going to invite you over at 3:00 am after talking to you for only 30 minutes. She might meet you somewhere but she’s not going to invite you over. The one exception is if she doesn’t have a car she might as girls without car are usually bored as hell and easy to hook up with.

But if you get several signals it’s scam don’t waste your time.

I hope this helps you avoid any scams and keep you from getting ripped off.

Your success is my goal,

Nico Simon Princely

Gene Simmons is the Ultimate Alpha Male on Celebrity Apprentice.

I have been watching “The Celebrity Apprentice” for the last couple of episodes and one thing that has stood out to me is how Gene Simmons is the Alpha Male of the show.

By default “The Donald” (Trump) is put in the position of power and as the dominant Alpha Male of the show. Then you have all of the members of Hydra on the male team…

• Lennox Lewis
• Gene Simmons
• Stephen Baldwin
• Tito Ortiz
• Vincent Pastore
• Piers Morgan

All of them rich, successful Alpha Males in their own right, but when you watch it is very apparent that the Dominant Alpha Male of the show is Gene Simmons from the way he handled the first and second challenges to the way he dresses and his interactions with Trump and Ivanka.

You can see this when Gene shows in interest in Ivanka when in one of the deleted scenes he asks if she can stay with the guys after Trump introduces her to the male team.

Then in the second challenge when he demonstrates his dominance over Ivanka when she comes in to check up on the male team. He knew exactly what he was doing. Not only did he show dominance and high status but he also provoked an emotional reaction in her that kept her focus and attention on him in her mind for several hours.

Later he apologized which did not make him look weak but cordial and by that time he had already accomplished his goal of both showing dominance and creating an emotional reaction in her. Just like when a lawyer says something in a trial and the judge over rules it and instructs the jury to disregard that statement. The lawyer knows that once it has been said the damage has been done and it’s in the minds of the jury and telling them to disregard it will not undo what he has done.

Gene of course is a legendary Rock Star, and brilliant marketer who is primarily responsible for the massive income generated by K.I.S.S. as well as his other business projects. No doubt if he had the startup capital that The Donald had to start with, his fortune would be equally as large.

He is also known for having had sex with over 4800 women (while having a living girlfriend that accepts his sexual escapades) and having a long highly skilled tongue. So when he shows interest in a woman they know what it means and he makes no apologies about it (Very Alpha Indeed.)

He is always calm, cool and collected and resolute, free of inner conflict and if you notice he always does something that sets him apart from the other males on the team making him look more Alpha than the rest of them.

Gene’s persona is a exploding with Alpha Male traits like success, talent, intelligence, and charisma and a I do it my way attitude (but that’s because he actually know how to do it the best way). But you see when he gets into an area that some else knows better then him he delegates responsibility accordingly rather than trying to do it all himself and end up looking like a fool.

For example when he let Stephen Baldwin direct the commercial in the second episode. But when they could not control the traffic on the street he took charge and brought it back to where they were in a controlled environment.

It will be interesting to see how this plays out but my money is on Gene Simmons to win the show but even if he doesn’t he is still the Alpha Male of the bunch in this environment.

After all his competition is not even close to his level.

First off we have two fighters which are usually not known for their business acumen, and I am not in anyway saying they are stupid, but only that the best athletes are not always the best business men. They are good at what they do, which is deliver amazing physical performance beyond what the average man can do. This is just not their chosen arena so they are at a disadvanatage.

However if there is a brawl challenge I give it to Tito Ortiz. No disrespect to Lennox Lewis but a grappler will almost always take a Boxer. Maybe one of these two will surprise me who knows?

Next we have Piers Morgan who has already put his foot in his mouth a few times and in the first episode was turning away customers with an attitude trying to sell $100 hot dogs. He looked like a rude prick if I had been there I would have told him to shut up and stop turning people away as it’s just bad business and sends out negative energy, what ever happened to service with a smile.

If it had not been for Gene Simmons the women would have won because they were taking all donations big and small and because of it the women did over $7K without big spenders.

Next are the two Actors Stephen Baldwin and Vincent Pastore. Stephen has already proven his worth but I don’t see any threat to Gene from either of them unless Vincent has him whacked! LOL

Now a good match would have been if Arnold Schwarzenegger, Bill Gates and Bill Clinton, That Asshole from American Idol (what’s his name again?) and George Forman Had been on the show with Gene.

That’s all for now and as always your success is my goal,

Nico Simon Princely

Eric Wrote:
“What should I wear on my first date?”

Hi Eric,

You ask a question that many men ask themselves right before going to meet a woman that they have been talking to online and are now going to meet for the first time.

So let me give you some tips… 

This is just like a call back when you go on a casting call for an acting role. You want to go dressed similar in style to how you look in your pictures in your profile. Because this is what she is used to seeing and fits the mental image of you in her head. This is also the look that she has become attracted to.

It also depends on where you are going to meet her. If you follow my system for meeting women online you will be meeting her in a very casual setting in a public place. So you should dress casual.

You should never get all dressed up for a first meeting. While women do this, when a man does it makes him look like he is trying too hard to impress her. There are exceptions of course if you are coming from work to meet her and you are wearing a suit because you just got off work that’s ok as long as she knows you just came from work. But you almost always to better when dress very casual and relaxed like you could really care less what she thinks.

If you are going to be meeting up at a club (which I don’t recommend for a first meeting) You should be wearing trendy clothing (which means Designer Jeans that cost $200 a pair like Bad Religon, Desel, Etc… and Over priced T-Shirts like Ed Hardy, Affliction etc.) 

Make sure your clothes are clean and in good condition unless they are that worn look that is in style right now. (I’ll take that $100 T-Shirt, no not that one, the one with the tears and holes please.)

Wear nice clean shoes, women always look at a man’s shoes for some reason (Maybe it’s because nice shoes cost a lot of money and they are sizing you up financially?) and grungy shoes are a turn off for most women.

If you are not getting the women you want you may need to change your style (among other things). Attractive women that have style generally prefer men that have a sense of style and stays current and looks somewhat in fashion.

Your confidence, actions and attitude are far more important than how you dress, but dressing right can set things in your favor from that start and make every thing else go that much easier. 

 I hope this answers your question.

Your success is my goal,

Nico Simon Princely

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Many, many, readers have written to me asking:

“How do I get her attention to make her interested in a conversation?”

“How can I get girls to respond back to me when I email them?”

“I can’t even get women to reply to my e-mails, what do I do?”

Without question the questions that I am asked most often about online dating in some variation or another is basically “How do I get women to respond to my e-mails?”

This seems to be the biggest obstacle for most men in meeting & picking up women online. They can’t get women to respond to their opening e-mail. This is really analogous to the initial approach when meeting a woman off line in the real world.

Online via e-mail just like in the real world you only get one chance at a first impression so your opening e-mail can make or break you chance at meeting that woman you are planning to e-mail. You opening e-mail is one of the most important tools you have in meeting women online 2^nd only to your profile.

After spending 4 years online meeting women, I have learned what works and what does not work when contacting women online and distilled it down to workable consistent formula that any man can learn and use to be successful with women online with a little practice and effort.

The correct method for meeting women online is not something I can tell you in one or two paragraphs so I have written a 10 page special report in adobe .pdf format that you can download for free by signing up to my free newsletter at http://www.pickupwomenonline.com

It contains my top 4 techniques for getting women to respond to your e-mails.

Your success is my goal,

Nico Simon Princely

BJ wrote:
“I look like a young Brad Pitt and I fill out my profile very well.
Still not much success, very confusing”

Hi BJ,
Ok so you have the first part down, you’re lucky enough to be
naturally good looking.

So why is it that someone that looks like you does not do as well
as I do online?

It’s obviously not my looks, while some women do think I am good
looking others don’t basically they love me or hate me there is
not much middle ground with me. I rate a 7 to 7.7 on hot or not.

You have a look that would appeal to more women than I do.
So the answer is what you are doing is NOT working, you are not
contacting them the right way, or your profile is not conveying
attractive qualities.

There are two problems men that are good looking run into:

1.They try to rely just on their looks.
Unlike women that can rely on just their looks to attract most men.
This does not work well with women. Because women are attracted more
to a mans action and they way he interacts with them than they are
to his looks in most cases.

They look for traits and qualities where we look for physical
attributes. Let me give you an example of how men and women differ
at this.

US (Men)        Them (Women)
Great Body     Confidence
Nice tits           Status
Great Ass        The way he makes her feel
Pretty Face     The way he carries himself

The above is just an example and not a direct correlation.

Now some women are more physical than others and are attracted
to model type guys. But of all of the naturals I know the
best looking model type guys are NOT the ones that get the most
or hottest g1rls. It’s the ones that have personality and convey
the alpha male qualities The ones that and are good looking are
virtually unstoppable. Some of them are not all that much to look at
but they are fun, outgoing and keep the women laughing.

2. If your good looking most women think your a player.
I have been told this by women that find me good looking, that I
intimidate them becuase I am always hanging out with hot women
(or so they think based on my pictures) or they think I am a
player and don’t trust me and are afraid to give me a chance
because they will get hurt.

So as a good looking man in addition to not relying on your
looks and developing a personality you also need to overcome
their fears that you are a player or man whore.

If you have not done so I suggest that you visit my site
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I answer all kinds of questions related to online dating.

Your success is my goal,

Nico Simon Princely