Nico’s Online Dating, Pickup & Seduction Blog.

A reader Wrote:

“How does online pick up compare and relate to pick up in the field concerning results, time frame, quality, quantity, etc? Also, assuming one is very capable at seducing over the internet, but his real life persona is slightly incongruent, or his game simply isn’t as tight in real time, how strongly will that effect his results?”

My Answer:

This is actually several questions, but they are all good so I will try to answer these as completely as I can.

(Question 1)

How does online pick up compare and relate to pick up in the field concerning results, time frame, quality, quantity, etc?

This would all depend on were you live and if you are trying to meet women locally or are open to meeting women from all over the country or world.

Let’s say you live in a small town and there are not that many attractive women in your town. Online dating can be a great help because you can search for women 20, 50, 100 miles away get to know them online and then meet and hook up. By doing this you just expanded your selection of available and attractive women that you could not have done locally in person.

Another example is when you travel. I am getting ready for a trip to San Diego and I emailed a few women got some responses back and now I have several women that want to meet me and show me around. I have how ever decided on taking a woman with me so I won’t be taking the girls up on their offers this time. But anytime I travel without a date I always line women up in the city I am planning on visiting so that I will be able to have fun and meet women and get the local scoop entertainment and dining, clubs etc…

As far as time frame nothing is as fast as a in person pickup obviously, because you meet the girl, take her home and there you go. But for many men this does not happen very often or at all.

So the reality for most men is if they are lucky enough to hit it off with a woman, they then get her number, call her in a few days, set up a date and then see her a few more times before they have sex. If all goes perfectly, but for many men once again it never makes it to the sex part and it  it was just a waste of time and money.

Where as in online dating you can also hook up quickly but generally it’s not instant, you will have a few e-mail exchanges or a chat session and then talk on the phone and then you meet in person. However if you have done it right she should be very attracted to you and will be hooking up on the first or second in person meeting.

As far as quality, I have met online and dated, very attractive trade show models, fitness models, cocktail waitresses, strippers, hair dressers, college girls etc… All of which have been very attractive. I have also done the same in person so like I said before it really depends on your location.

As far as quantity, that also depends on your location and your in person approach and pickup skill. I mean if you are in college surrounded by women and you are great at meeting women, online dating should be a second option not your first choice as you are surrounded by hot young women all day long, it’s like one big candy store!

If you are how ever in a poor location for meeting women in person or not good and meeting women then you might do better online.

But if you are in a great location and you lack ability I would suggest you get a live one-on-one coaching session with me or someone because if you don’t take advantage of a great location like college you will regret it for the rest of your life!

(Question 2)

Assuming one is very capable at seducing over the internet, but his real life persona is slightly incongruent, or his game simply isn’t as tight in real time, how strongly will that affect his results?

Yes it will affect your results and you will not be the same person you are online. But really if you have done your seduction online all you have to do is NOT screw it up when you meet.

I have often met girls and had sex with them in as soon as 5 minutes to 2 hours after just a few online exchanges, 2 times that I remember I hardly even spoke when we met because the attraction was already so strong. Of course you should always try to improve your live in person game as it will only help you.

You should also use your strong points. If you’re good on the phone, get her on the phone, if your better online stay online, if your better in person, you might not get as sexual online and then seduce her in person.

If she is not local to you and travel is required you will always get sexual online before you meet if you are traveling specifically to see her.

If you are talking to more conservative women you will not get sexual online and you will seduce her in person.

I have done all of the above. Who you are and your strengths and weaknesses and the location of the woman will determine the exact path you take.

I hope this answers your questions.

Nico

A reader wrote:

Hey Nico! How do you get over that fear of actually meeting up with women you meet online? I have met many great women online, but feel that meeting face-to-face feels akward and unnatural. You also don’t want to disappoint the other person. Thanks man! Michael

Hi Michael,

You should not have any fear of meeting a woman that you have been talking to as long as you have been honest about who you are and you actually look like your pictures.

There is nothing unnatural or awkward about meeting a woman that is already interested in you. The hard part is over, all you have to do now is just be the same person you were when you were talking to her online.

When you go to meet her you should fell the same way as when you go to see one of your friends that you have known for awhile.

Try this…Site down and close your eye and imagine that she is a old friend that has moved away and that you have been talking to her online and when you go see her you might feel excited but you would never feel nervous or awkward because you already know her, see her greeting you warmly and you both have a great time. Imagine this until you feel it. Then go meet her.

If you act like you have known each other for ever she will also feel that way, if you feel awkward and unnatural she will also feel that too and it will kill all that you have built.

Think of it this way, if she didn’t want to meet you and did not like you she would not be meeting you in person PERIOD.

Also you said “You also don’t want to disappoint the other person.”

This is coming from the wrong state of mind. Why would she be disappointed? That statement reeks of insecurity and low self-confidence which are two of the biggest turn offs to women.

You should NEVER think anything other than this girl is going to love me and have a great time and she is so lucky to meet me.

In fact you should say that as many times a day as you need to until you feel it to be true and then it will be.

I meet girls online and when we meet in person they often greet me with a hug, or we start kissing just a short time after meeting. Why, because I am relaxed, and I expect to be well received and it telegraphs through all of my actions.

Attraction between a man and a woman is one of the most natural things in life, right next to eating and going to the bathroom…lol

Really there would not be billions of people on this planet if that was not the case.

Never worry about it, just feel natural about it and let it happen and get out of your own way.

Nico