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Here is a clip from the new course I am recording right now on the psychology of attraction. Please let me know what you think and I will be posting other clips soon.

This course will go into detail about what creates attraction and…

• Give you an understanding of how women think
• What an alpha male is and what is his traits and how to display those traits
• Why nice guys don’t get laid  and what the nice guy/wussy traits are
• Why some men are naturals and what to do if your not one
• The most powerful forces that create attraction
• What women are attracted to specifically
• Why women love jerks, bad boys, Musicians, Actors, Dj’s and Jocks!
• How to Create Attraction
• Why women lose attraction to men and dump them.
• and much much more!

I hope to release the course in the next 30 days. But man this is a lot of work and it’s not easy to put this together.

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I  was reading on an other blog of an experience of a guy at a party  talking to a girl and the girl said out of the blue “Honestly, I would never be interested in dating a guy like you.”

He said it really hit him hard and was wondering how to get past or what to say to that so I thought I’d share my take on that with my readers.

First off he might have been projecting a neediness or body language that was making her feel that he was hitting on her, I also did not see how he was dressed or how she was dressed. For example if the girl looks like one of the Suicide Girls and he has the prep frat boy look there is a major obstacle right there.

The other thing is while I am all for being natural as you probably know from reading my blog, being natural and engaging and being natural and boring are too different things. And if your naturally boring you need to fix that.

 If he was engaging her on an emotional level she would not have said that. She was bored and there was no attraction being created.

So the correct response in a situation like this is…

Don’t take it personally when a woman says something like
“Honestly, I would never be interested in dating a guy like you”

Don’t give it any power over you at all. Because you have no idea what that really means. I have had women that would not date me and then after I found out what kinds of guys she was attracted to I considered a compliment! Seriously!

One later married and total loser that Overdosed on drugs on their first date and she fell in love with him in the hospital and then married him because she said “I knew no one would ever love him as much as me” and to thank her for all of her love he beat the shit out of her a month or so later and then she divorced him.

Now do I feel bad that she would not date me? HELL NO! She’s damaged goods with all kinds of issues!

What to say when a woman says something like that…
(a few off the top of my head)

 “Why is that?” find out why it is? Maybe she is testing you?

 “Have you ever met someone that you thought was not your type and then realized…that…this person…was much more your type then you had previously thought…and you then…began to become more and more attracted to them?” This would be a NLP/Conversational hypnosis answer where you are leading her on a journey to feeling attraction for someone she was not first attracted to. But really if you do your job right the first time you should not need to do this and you have to be a master at  it to pull this off other wise you come of looking totally lame.

“Thanks for being honest. But I think you must have misunderstood, I am not interested in you either, I just like to talk to people as opposed to standing against the wall, besides it makes me look less superficial to be talking to a girl like you.” Neg me and I’ll neg you right back.

“That’s good to know because I am not at all interested in women that are not interested in me, thanks for not letting me waste my time” and walk off cold let go of it and find someone else to talk to. This is one of the best responses you just move on.

“Then you obviously lack both intelligence and depth, have a nice nite.”
Yes this is being an asshole, but in truth I feel this way if a woman is not interested in me she is an idiot (See first example) and I have said that in front of women before. Why? Because I know a lot of men and what they offer and I know my self and what I have to offer she just gave a way a winning lottery ticket stupid girl.  I also know that I generally attract women with both intelligence and depth. A tamer version of this is to say “Well there is no accounting for taste, have a nice night.”

“OMG that’s so embarrassing, (learn over and whisper in her ear) you have something hanging out of your nose!” and watch her rush away embarrassed…LOL fucked up huh…lol Immature yes, crude yes, funny yes, she may even pull out a compact and check her nose, and say “No I don’t”, just say “let me see, I guess it fell out! Thank GOD!” you have now just moved from, her not being attracted to you, to you teasing her, and it might even get her in a playful mood where you could build some attraction. This should be used on younger women.

“Once again the universe proves it is friendly and saves me from total disaster!”
 Go cosmic on her.

“That’s good to know because I’m not attracted to you either, so tell me about that _____ you were telling me about” Basically showing your disinterest but continuing the conversation.

“That’s good because you’re not really the kind of girl I go for anyway?”
 If she asks why point out any flaws she has i.e. I don’t like the way you dress. Not crazy about your hair. I’m not really into girls with tattoos, I like more petite women, I like taller women Etc… Hey I never said I was a nice guy.

Now if you asked for her number or to go somewhere as opposed to it being unsolicited and she said “”Honestly, I would never be interested in dating a guy like you.”

Then you should respect her honesty and appreciate that she did not give you her number and lead you on like a fool or give you a fake number.

And then I would use…

“That’s good to know because unlike most men that are needy and insecure I am not at all interested in women that are not interested in me, thanks for not letting me waste my time”

“Ahh…Once again the universe proves it is friendly and saves me from total disaster!”

But what you should take away from reading this is…

1. Avoid this happening by being an emotionally engaging Alpha Male in the first place.
   
2. Don’t take it personally.
3. Have fun with it. Play with her, Neg her Back. See how she likes it.
4. If she said it in response to you asking her out just respect her for her honesty.

So what’s a Captain Save-A-Ho?It’s one of those needy or insecure guys that feel they need to buy a women to get some ass. Some Save-A-Ho traits range from taking her out to overly expensive dinners on first dates when you don’t even know her or buying drinks for women you have just met or that are hanging around the bar. (Women often look for some desperate guy to offer to buy them a drink)

Now in the extreme is the REAL Captain Save-A-Ho with cape flowing in the wind and all! This cat is the real deal…He finds some physically hot chick (often lacking in other qualities) and due to his lack of inner game, offers her the world…

For Example… “If your with me baby…I take care of you, you don’t have to do anything but be mine…I’ll pay for your car, your cell phone, you live with me, we’ll go places and do things! I’ll take you shopping!”

Now what he is really saying to her and she knows this on a deeper level is…”Baby I have no self-worth, but I have some cash and I am so desperate to get your ass that I will pay you for it! And let you walk all over me!” What’s even worse is he may want more than just ass and really be in love with her! Then he is really Screwed!

Now often many women will take the guy up on the offer, a free ride is hard to turn down and if…she is…in a bad place and going through some tough times…she might think her prayers are answered and Captain Save-A-Ho looks like a God send. And maybe he is for a short time. After all any way out of a card board box is a way out!

Captain-Save-A-Ho thinks he is in good shape and in control because the girl is now financially dependant on him… He need to be controlling because he is insecure and knows he can’t hold her any other way! Besides he thinks “She would never bite the hand that feeds her!” (Dumbass what other hand is she going to bite, that’s the only one in her face!)

But what ALWAYS happens is she might think she is living the good life but sooner or later these women lose respect for Captain-Save-A-Ho and they are start to see him as he really is Captain-Desperate-Do-Do. And then they actually start to resent him for all he has done for them! And they cheat on him or just up and leave him, usually for a guy that won’t give them time of day! And get this shit in some states where they have common law marriage she can actually get alimony from this guy even if they weren’t married!

She takes the pussy with her but her but he still has to pay for it! OMG! That’s like some one stealing your car and you still have to make the payments!

I have known several women that were with very rich men and some not so rich men and it never works out they leave the guys, the cars, the mansion and the jet’s behind! I know a girl right now that has 13 phone numbers of guys with their own jet’s in her phone and she is not with any of them and they all want her!

Another reason women don’t like Captain-Save-A-Ho is because they don’t respect the guy, they are quickly losing attraction for him, not in love with him and when it all boils down they know they are just there for the money and realize the truth is that they are just BIG HO’S! And he helps make her a HO! He was her trick and she was the Ho!

A woman won’t respect a man who gives her things she has not earned and she is not pulling her weight. You even see it in typical marriages these days…The woman is lazy sits on her ass the guy pays all of the bills and she bosses him around and uses sex to control him and he puts up with it to get some! Crazy! Mean while she might be off boinking the pool boy!

If you’re going to pay for girls at least do it right, do it Like Huge Hefner, don’t have just one have 5 or so living with you, so you all know what the deal is right from the start…Hef’s girls come and go always filling the empty spots as they open up, but as I hear it He make his girls earn it! (More power to you Hef!) They all know what’s up from the start and they also know Hef is NOT desperate which is why he CAN pull it off!

Now some women will bitch and moan about what I just said here and call me cheap for saying this because they don’t want to lose their power and they like to get the dinners and drinks and a free ride (I ain’t say’n she a gold digger but…SHE IS!), but they don’t respect the guys that do that nor are they attracted to them and they know it. And to prove my point a while back I hooked up (had sex with, separately) three girls and all were very attractive, I spent a total of $12.00 on combined on all three (before we had sex)…and that was only after one of them bought me a drink! Why is that, because the truth is a girl is attracted to you or she is not attracted to you and spending money on her is not going to change that! In fact I take that back, spending money on her might actually turn her off if you spend too much!

Now I am not cheap, I am SMART! When I find a girl that is loyal, honest, trustworthy, loving and treats me well…I am very generous with what I have and I have much more than just money…you can ask my last two girls friends and the woman I have been dating now for over 2 years and they will all tell you that I did more for them then any other man they had ever been with, but they earned it! They proved themselves to me and they deserved it!

And to the guys that say “No man women like guys with money!” Sure they do, women love successful men, THAT HAVE SELFWORTH! So if you run into a woman that all about the Benjamins you know what she is already so send her on her way to let her find her Captain!

So the moral of this story is JUST SAY NO TO CAPTAIN SAVE-A-HO