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Ok the title of this post it loaded and was meant to get you’re attention.

I was responding to another Facebook post…Where a stripper was complaining about some guy she was dating that cheated on her and a guy stated most strippers are messed up in the head and cheat more and he got attacked so I had to chime in and say a few words…Here is my take on the subject.

“Women often lie and cheat as much as men and it’s much easier for them becuase any attractive women can find a man to cheat with pretty much all day long no matter where they go. They are just better at hiding it.

As far as strippers I have dated a few some cheat and some don’t and the majority are messed up in the head from my personal experience but quite honestly most beautiful women (stripper or not) in general are messed up in the head, rely only their looks, and are unreliable, flaky, lie as much or more than men,  are too demanding, can’t cook and think the world owes them something.

One reason why this happens is because most men these days kiss their asses have no balls or self-respect and put up with it and let them walk all over them and the women continue to do it. If men stood their ground these kinds of women would shape up or be alone.

This  opinion comes from my experience of dating strippers, models and other very attractive women and talking to my friends that have also done the same or even run strip clubs. And also many strippers have been raped or molested at one time in their life and stripping is their way of taking back their sexual power. (I’m not saying that is the case with all of them but it seems to be a trend.)

On the up side Strippers are fun, often generous (the good ones), and hot to look at, outgoing and fun to hang out with, and most but not all are generally more sexual and many have good hearts. I have no issue with the job or the industry itself nor do I look down upon it or them and I judge each person individually, but you must also take in account any stereotype becuase stereotypes are formed only when there is a very large percentage of of the group in question that fits the stereotype in the first place.

When a guy is with a girl who is unreliable, flaky, lies  or just a difficult pain in the ass or too demanding he’s not going to take her seriously (if he’s got a brain in his head) becuase he knows she’s only good for one thing (if shes even good at that) and when her looks fade you have an ugly, unreliable, demanding pain in he ass, wow what a deal…lol

So ladies if you’re flaky, a pain in the ass, too demanding, showing him little respect, the guy is going to start seeing someone else and really to you blame him?

I’m not saying it’s ok to cheat for either party. I personally just tell them I’m seeing other people, you can stay and have fun and see where it leads or go.

I dated a 10 that was a stripper many years ago and she told me when we broke up “Nico, don’t date strippers, you can’t trust them.” and that was coming from a stripper.

I did not listen as I just stopped dating another stripper that was reliable, did not do drugs or drink did not live the stripper lifestyle (about 10% if that much are like this) and was my best friend, but that’s no longer because she has daddy issues that caused resentment toward men and I got tired of verbal attacks becuase of her issues.

Everyone is an individual but certain industries do attract certain kinds of people and personalities. Strippers and Girls in Porn act differently that a Woman that’s a lawyer, actresses also have their own peculiarities. And this goes for men as well.

Male Strippers also cheat more most of the time…Because they get it offered to them where as the average man does not. This is based on my friends in that are male exotic dancers and my own experience as one many years ago for a short period (it  wasn’t for me as I like to use my brain.)

If you want to attack me, delete me, etc for what  I have said so be it…lol

I think i’ll post this on my blog so thanks for the inspiration!”

So in closing All strippers are NOT crazy, cheating, lying, whores…But you can bet there is a fair share of them out there that are crazy, will cheat, and some will have sex for money. So don’t be blinded by their beauty look for their beauty in their actions to show you who they really are!

BTW I know of girls that used to work at retail stores in Beverly Hills during the day and are off banging foreign business men for $2000 a night while they boyfriends were out playing poker with their buddies on Wednesday night.  So it’s not just strippers.

I could not believe it when it came out of a man’s mouth! It just goes to show you how badly the average man is brainwashed. By women,  society etc…

I was having conversation on face book actually on a the topic of Good and Evil and being selfish and selfless when the guy said “Show me a guy who won’t pick up the check and I’ll show you a coward.”

I’ll share with you my response to this utter bullshit that men have been brainwashed by, that makes us subservient to women, as opposed to the dominant men we are by nature.

My response…

“This one is PURE BULLSHIT  “I tell my girls “Show me a guy who won’t pick up the check and I’ll show you a coward.”

So you’re perpetuating the CON JOB that women have pulled over men’s eyes. Women after demanding equal rights not only have them but also still want special treatment. Women often make more than men, yet still expect men to pay their way. Any time a women wants to manipulate a man all she has to do is attack his ego…with “If you were a real man you’d do such and such for me” or “Only a coward would do such and such”

You my friend are stabbing your own fellow man in the back when you perpetuate that outdated, belief that women use to Con Men. You’re also sub-communicating that you are looking for their approval and are easily manipulated.

This an outdated load of B.S. that puts everything in their favor and sets it up for men to be taken advantage, used and manipulated. Sure 70 years ago it made since when women did not have as much power as they do today.

Today an attractive women can virtually live of men giving nothing in return like a parasite and still work while making a living and saving all of her money. Some women have several men they rely on to pay their bill and buy them stuff.  And dumb men allow it to happen thinking “They are REAL MEN”…Yeah “REAL DUMB MEN”

When that practice was useful 70 years ago and before at that time women respected men, honored men, and valued men. If you think that still the case you are delusional.

When I go out with my female friends they know to pay their way. They are not my girlfriend, I’m not having sex with them and I’m not paying their way. And they do not to try to pull that crap with me becuase I’m smarter than that. They also respect me and value you, invite me places and hook me up. I do the same for them. Often even the women I have sex with pay their way or take me out. Why not? Are they doing me a favor to have sex with me that I need to pay for? I think not! They get as much or more pleasure in many cases (as women can have multiple orgasms) as I do.

If you want to show them a coward look in the mirror right after you say that B.S. line. Because what you are really saying when you pay their way just becuase they are female is “I don’t have the balls to respect and value myself first, I’m putting you on a pedestal, and you have more value than me and I’m looking for your approval becuase I’d rather pay than be alone.” In short I value you more than I value myself.

Women love to Scream Equal Rights and Feminist until the Check come…what a lot of crap! Then they shut up and see who is the sucker!

Women string men along like that for years, few women have the decency to say “I’m not really interested in you so I’ll pay my way, becuase it’s not fair for you to pay for me when you’re getting nothing in return.” Or ” You know you pay all of the time it’s my turn tonight”

Now if they are reciprocal and hook you up with other women, jobs, tickets, shows, contacts or are there for you then sure pay their way. But when it’s all take and no given your not being a REAL MAN you’re being fool. Ask any of those women you are pickup the check for for “Personal loan” or Real favor and see how many will come to your aid.

And if you want to call me a coward for not offering to pay the way for a woman that I’m not sleeping with/dating or that is not providing real value in my life fine…I know better than that as I have saved a man from his house burning down, saved a women from a masked rapist in her apartment, and jump out a car where I was safe and then got the crap beat out of me to save a good friend from a gang when all of his other friends just stood there and watched.

What you cowardliness I call self-respect. And have had women take me out to dinner many times, do things for me to show me they value me. I’m a REAL MAN and I expect RESPECT, HONOR and to BE VALUED.

Now when a woman has proven to me that she is of value and worthy of what I have to give I’m very generous as any of my Ex-GF can and will attest.

I can see our thinking is radically different and I have work to do so I’ll end this here with “I agree to disagree”

I think I use my response on my blog, so thanks for the inspiration.

PS: If you are just loaded with money and want to give to every one all of the time. That’s a different story…If I had $100,000,000 I’d be walking down the street giving away  $100 bills randomly daily. But I still would not want to be taken advantage of.”

That’s the end of my response. One thing I would ad is don;t ask women about this or talk to them about it of course they are going to disagree becuase they don’t want to lose their power over men. But the fact is that I myself and a ton of men  that I know who have sex with very attractive women do it without spending hardly any money at times. Because attraction is not based on spending money attraction has been around since before money was invented.

The Christmas season is often a very stressful and sometimes depressing time of  the year for single people both men and women. This is especially true for those without family or that live across the country from them. Which is one reason suicide rates often climb during the holiday season.

In times like this people often add undue stress to their lives be labeling themselves a “Loser” or making statements like “My life sucks”, “I’m always alone”, “No one loves me”, “I have no one to give to or to love” and/or other such negative pity party statements.

This self-defeating behavior will not only perpetuate the situation by creating beliefs that keep you in a limited un-resourceful state of being. But also take you spiraling down father into the pit of despair and negativity.

You need to step back at times like these and realize that no event has any significance other than what we give it ourselves. Look around the world Buddists, Muslims and others that do not Celebrate the Chirstmas holidays are not in a state of depression or feeling unloved because they place no significance on it.

This does not mean that you should not celebrate it, but only that you should stop giving how you celebrate it significance and power over your emotional state. And if possible you can celebrate it even more fully than before just be being in the moment and enjoying what every comes along.

I love Christmas Holidays and it’s always been one of  my favorite times of the year since I was young boy. I love the decorations, the tree, the food, the music, the Christmas movies,and sharing it with someone. It’s one of the times I feel like a kid again.

But this year I got out of a relationship and have been so focused on work and was unable to go see my family. So I ended up alone on Christmas, with no tree, no decorations. Which is not my first choice but I’m not going to let it get me down and those of you that are out there reading this right now should not let it get you down either if you are in a similar situation.

So I want to give you some suggestions on how to beat “The Holiday Blues.”

1. Give to others less fortunate than you. If you are in stable financial position go out and give to the homeless, donate , make someone else ’s Chirstmas brighter and I promise you yours will be too.
2. Along the same lines above, you could play santa and dress up or just get the hat and go buy some toys and take it to orphanage, or a community center. Or you could also get some gift cards and walk up to random people you feel drawn to and give  them a card with a gift card in it and say “Have a Marry Christmas, See there is a Santa Claus!”Single mothers are also a good choice as they often have a hard time making ends meet this time of year and giving gifts to their children.
3. Give to yourself. There is no one more important than you in your life and if you don’t have anyone to give to or anyone that will be giving to you I suggest that you give yourself a gift. Buy something you would really like and make it special by getting something that you would not normally buy for yourself. Treat yourself you deserve it.
4. If you can’t afford financially to give to others or give to yourself. Then give to yourself by doing something you love to do or by learning a new skill or getting back involved in one you have not done in awhile. For me it’s The Guitar. I have had guitars since I was 8 but I really never put in the time to get good at which is really lame since I have 5 of them…lol So I decided that the gift I was going to give myself this year was to get good at the guitar and start playing every day and I have been. My fingers are callousing up nicely, my hands are getting used to the chord changes and I’m learning one of my favorite songs. I’ve been playing all night! and I could  not be Happier, I also bought myself a couple of small gifts.
5. Do what very it takes to keep a positive mental state, if you can still get in the Christmas spirit and give to others & yourself, decorate, watch movies,  eat cookies, drink egg nog etc… Go for it. If that depresses you in any way. Then you can skip Christmas and just do something else you love to.
6. If you have no one to give to at all and you don’t want to give to others think to yourself “look at all of the money I can spend on myself
   and go get yourself something.” It’s ok to be completely selfish and love yourself first. It’s wonderful to give to others but it’s also wonderful to give to yourself and have present to open Christmas Morning. I suggest you even have it wrapped. I buy myself presents every year even if I’m not alone. Because no one else has been there for me through the hard times like I have, no one else had done for me what I have done for myself and I want to thank and honor myself. Because in life the only person you can always count on is yourself. So give yourself some credit and some love and a nice present.
7. Get a pet. Go rescue a Dog or Cat from the Animal shelter and make their life better and give them some love. Pets are wonderful But please make sure that you want to the responsibility for the rest of their lives or that you can find them a good home as they are not holiday toys but are little beings that deserve love and respect just like you do. And if you get a cat dress it up in funny out fits (Because cats love that…lol…Not so much) and put videos of it on You Tube…you could have the next Famous Cat!

Above all be grateful for all you have, your arms, legs, health, that you have shelter and a bed to sleep in , your car…Everything you can think of. Having another person in your life is nothing compared to all that you already have.

The Spirit of Christmas is the Spirit of Love and Giving so give some love to yourself and others and you will fell much better.

I hope you have a Very Merry Christmas and a Wonderful New year!

I just got back from a birthday party at a bar that I was invited to by a new Facebook friend that I made from interacting with an old friend (He and I met through out ex-girlfriends before they were our ex’s) We lost touch and recently reconnected Via Facebook. After commenting on his posts other women started adding me and here I am making new friends and being invited to birthday parties.

Now at the birthday party I did some Social Networking old school style in person face to face and that was invited to a Black Tie New Years party. After that I decided to just chill and two women one after another approached me at the bar. One gave me her card after the conversation ended, the other I left to go to the restroom and did not make contact again with because I was busy networking with the people I was sitting with.

So what is the point of all of this. I want to to see how this all fits together how one event can link to another and open entire new worlds of possibility.

I have been working really hard and basically stopped dating, socializing and just focused on work for the past 3 months. I mean 18 hour days, I also lost friends over this and choose to end some friendships as well that were not being reciprocal and felt one sided to me. I’m not much for having dead weight in my life.

So I knew I need to get out and socialize make new connections and start dating again now that my products are finished and about to launch.

So I put my intention out there, and then took action, followed up and said “Yes” to the opportunity presented to me (if you have not seen the movie “YES MAN” with Jim Carrey you should rent it and watch it.) I said yes to one invitation, which equaled several new contacts/friends, an invite to another party for New Years, a phone number from a woman that initiated contact with me and who knows how many more connections I’ll make from this one event that all came from an invite I got on Facebook. Another time I met smoking hot girl that I dated for awhile that I met out at a club from another birthday party I was invited to on Myspace.

Tonight I also said “Have a nice life to two girls” I previously met on Myspace, because when there is a disconnect there is no reason to hold on to something that’s not working out or is too difficult or in the case of one of them she was playing games. The other I screwed up but learned a valuable lesson in the process.

SIDE NOTE: Yes that’s right I said I screwed up. I’m not perfect and I still make mistakes and anyone that claims they are is a lair or trying to con you in some way. In this case my ego got in the way and I was putting obstacles in my own path…But I learned and plan I doing a issue in my new Special Subjects Multimedia Newsletter on “Cock Blocking Yourself /Self-Sabotage” so others can learn from my mistake and what I learned.

So I just said bye to one and deleted both them from my phone. Something a lot of men do is they keep trying to make it work even when the signs are clear you should just move on. Don’t live in scarcity live in a state of abundance knowing that you are always attracting more and better into your life.

I learned a lesson and then I let go of it and moved on and look women started approaching me and I got invited to another place where there are even more possibilities. It’s a chain-reaction from one action that multiplies your possibilities.

So get out there and take action, make new friends both male and female online and offline. I will tell you my male friends have hooked me up 100 times more than any of my female friends so make male friends and don’t cock block or go after their girls that comes from a scarcity mentality. When you live in abundance you know there is enough for every one.

Well that’s all for now!

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This below is a response to this article: http://hplusmagazine.com/articles/robotics/sexbots-will-give-us-longevity-orgasm

Yes this is the future…and then we will all be put of jobs (seduction & dating coaches), well not me as I also do other things (Any one want to buy VirtualLovePartner.com or VirtualLoveRobot.com, yes I’m a domainer also)

But there will be no need for the pickup industry. And as one of the people that commented on the article at the link above said many men will opt for this over dealing with the B.S. women put them through (that’s my own paraphrase, a bit harsher and to the point, but that’s the gist of it.)

Women will fight this because they will lose mush of their power. The battle of the sexes will be over and we will have won or maybe we just won’t give a damn and thanks to the Nerd and Geeks with the huge IQ’s that women have shunned for years not knowing that those very actions would be their very own undoing.

It will be a time of true equality…where both sexes will have to work just as hard, and one can no longer live off the other in a parasitic fashion as is the case in many situations. It will be the end of the Golddigger, The Tease and the “I want a ring as big as you last 3 months paycheck!” women.

Why when a man can buy a 3 bots for the same price as the ring who will never age, never have saggy breasts, love anal and I am sure will be built to interface with other bots for the 2 and 3 girl action, never say no,  feel better than a real women ever could and play all of your mp3 in Surround sound while your banger her, uh it I mean! You know at some point they will bring you beer and make you a sandwich toom if they also do dishes and laundry count me in!

It will be the end of the pickup industry as men that are naturals will still get women easily and men that are not will often opt for the bots. Why take $2997 boot camp when you can buy a bot. Men will start having trophy bots instead of trophy wives and just like men like to work on and collect cars and other men like to trick out their PC and MOD it so will be true of your Sex Bots. There might even be bot porn! In fact I’m sure of it if there Anime Hentai there will be bot porn. With link on the screen that says you can buy this bot for only $2997 click her to buy now! You’ll be able to get you very own copy of your favorite porn star or a bot with the dimensions of life size Barbie doll.

I can just hear it now “Dude I just installed a new that high pressure, spinning, oscillating vagina in C.H.E.R.R.Y. it’s fucking amazing! I can’t believe the shit my dad had to go through to get some pussy!”

It will also curb unwanted pregnancy, STD’s will virtually disappear, keep the world from being over populated, and help the Gene pool through more selective breeding.

Now women will attack this viciously because it’s a threat to their way of life and power.  They will not longer be able to rely on their natural built in self-preservation system P.U.S.S.Y. (Protection Under Serious Situations Year-Round) for the aquasition of money and lifestyle alone.

I can just here it now “No REAL man would have sex with a bot”.  Just like no real man would ever let a women pay for her dinner or a drink…etc…etc…etc…Pull my other leg it play jingle bells.

So are all of those women with vibrators and dildos not REAL women?

Some women will buy bots also but the demand just will not be there so the technology will lag because…

1) Attractive women can get sex any time they want unlike most men.

2) The Myth in the seduction community that women are more sexual than men or want it as much is just that a myth. Men buy most of the porn, men go to sex workers and men spend money perusing women. And men have more sexual thoughts on a more frequent basis than women.

 3) Women seek sex partners for emotional reasons more than sexual pleasure and also for financial support. And a bots not going to pay their bills.

 Thus there will be a renewed interest in cooking, charm school and all other areas that women will have left to attract a man. They might even start becoming the persurers in the dating world. Becuase they’ll need us alot more than we will need them.

Welcome to the  new Era of TRUE EQUALITY that is upon us.

My only concern is… Attractive women are often attracted to Alpha Douchbags with the I.Q. of an Apple think “Jersey Shore” and with the Geniuses all boinking their bots… we may breed into a race of beautiful morons that are really good foro nothing. Very similar to parts of the population in some of the cities I have lived in.

But in the mean time we still have to meet REAL women and be Alpha Males, and some men will still find that one women in 100 or 1000 who is what they are looking for so when that happens…You will see a lot of bots on ebay…lol

As for men I think I’ll still prefer the real thing but I do see this as a viable option for alot of men at least until they find a good woman.