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The Christmas season is often a very stressful and sometimes depressing time of  the year for single people both men and women. This is especially true for those without family or that live across the country from them. Which is one reason suicide rates often climb during the holiday season.

In times like this people often add undue stress to their lives be labeling themselves a “Loser” or making statements like “My life sucks”, “I’m always alone”, “No one loves me”, “I have no one to give to or to love” and/or other such negative pity party statements.

This self-defeating behavior will not only perpetuate the situation by creating beliefs that keep you in a limited un-resourceful state of being. But also take you spiraling down father into the pit of despair and negativity.

You need to step back at times like these and realize that no event has any significance other than what we give it ourselves. Look around the world Buddists, Muslims and others that do not Celebrate the Chirstmas holidays are not in a state of depression or feeling unloved because they place no significance on it.

This does not mean that you should not celebrate it, but only that you should stop giving how you celebrate it significance and power over your emotional state. And if possible you can celebrate it even more fully than before just be being in the moment and enjoying what every comes along.

I love Christmas Holidays and it’s always been one of  my favorite times of the year since I was young boy. I love the decorations, the tree, the food, the music, the Christmas movies,and sharing it with someone. It’s one of the times I feel like a kid again.

But this year I got out of a relationship and have been so focused on work and was unable to go see my family. So I ended up alone on Christmas, with no tree, no decorations. Which is not my first choice but I’m not going to let it get me down and those of you that are out there reading this right now should not let it get you down either if you are in a similar situation.

So I want to give you some suggestions on how to beat “The Holiday Blues.”

1. Give to others less fortunate than you. If you are in stable financial position go out and give to the homeless, donate , make someone else ’s Chirstmas brighter and I promise you yours will be too.
2. Along the same lines above, you could play santa and dress up or just get the hat and go buy some toys and take it to orphanage, or a community center. Or you could also get some gift cards and walk up to random people you feel drawn to and give  them a card with a gift card in it and say “Have a Marry Christmas, See there is a Santa Claus!”Single mothers are also a good choice as they often have a hard time making ends meet this time of year and giving gifts to their children.
3. Give to yourself. There is no one more important than you in your life and if you don’t have anyone to give to or anyone that will be giving to you I suggest that you give yourself a gift. Buy something you would really like and make it special by getting something that you would not normally buy for yourself. Treat yourself you deserve it.
4. If you can’t afford financially to give to others or give to yourself. Then give to yourself by doing something you love to do or by learning a new skill or getting back involved in one you have not done in awhile. For me it’s The Guitar. I have had guitars since I was 8 but I really never put in the time to get good at which is really lame since I have 5 of them…lol So I decided that the gift I was going to give myself this year was to get good at the guitar and start playing every day and I have been. My fingers are callousing up nicely, my hands are getting used to the chord changes and I’m learning one of my favorite songs. I’ve been playing all night! and I could  not be Happier, I also bought myself a couple of small gifts.
5. Do what very it takes to keep a positive mental state, if you can still get in the Christmas spirit and give to others & yourself, decorate, watch movies,  eat cookies, drink egg nog etc… Go for it. If that depresses you in any way. Then you can skip Christmas and just do something else you love to.
6. If you have no one to give to at all and you don’t want to give to others think to yourself “look at all of the money I can spend on myself
   and go get yourself something.” It’s ok to be completely selfish and love yourself first. It’s wonderful to give to others but it’s also wonderful to give to yourself and have present to open Christmas Morning. I suggest you even have it wrapped. I buy myself presents every year even if I’m not alone. Because no one else has been there for me through the hard times like I have, no one else had done for me what I have done for myself and I want to thank and honor myself. Because in life the only person you can always count on is yourself. So give yourself some credit and some love and a nice present.
7. Get a pet. Go rescue a Dog or Cat from the Animal shelter and make their life better and give them some love. Pets are wonderful But please make sure that you want to the responsibility for the rest of their lives or that you can find them a good home as they are not holiday toys but are little beings that deserve love and respect just like you do. And if you get a cat dress it up in funny out fits (Because cats love that…lol…Not so much) and put videos of it on You Tube…you could have the next Famous Cat!

Above all be grateful for all you have, your arms, legs, health, that you have shelter and a bed to sleep in , your car…Everything you can think of. Having another person in your life is nothing compared to all that you already have.

The Spirit of Christmas is the Spirit of Love and Giving so give some love to yourself and others and you will fell much better.

I hope you have a Very Merry Christmas and a Wonderful New year!