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In my opinion and from what I have seen women in general give men that worst dating advice.

Of the female authors that teach men that I have seen and they all give terrible advice.  Some do better than others but still leave out the most important aspects of attraction. The reason is the same
reason almost all women give bad advice to men regarding dating and it practically useless unless the man learns how to filter though it and absorb what is useful.

You’re thinking right now that makes no sense who would know more about what a woman wants than a woman. The problems is what a  woman wants and what she RESPONDS TO are usually to entirely different things (welcome to natures cruel joke on us) and she is not attracted by what she wants or all women would be dating nice guys that treat them well instead of jerks that treat them like crap.

The process of attraction is largely an unconscious process for most women, so they don’t even know what is causing the attraction (unless they have spent some time really investigating it in their mind) It just happens.

Most often most women choose the later of the two. For many reasons I won’t go into now. Which is also why I want to do a product for women that will tell them the truth and what they need to hear about men and why they also choose the wrong men and how to break that cycle.

For men it is a similar process but we are attracted more by what we see and by what she looks like than qualities so when we see a women we find attractive it is also somewhat unconscious but because it’s largely visible we can identify it easily by looking at the physical similarities between the women we are attracted to.

For example let’s see… the last 5 women I thought were attractive had, nice full lips, long dark or blonde hair and big breasts with a tan and nice round ass. So you can see what I am attracted to.  But with women it’s often qualities a man possesses that she is attracted to so it’s not as easy to tell just by looking at the men.

But back to women giving advice. Most of the time they tell me what they want in a man, which is not what attracts women, or creates attraction. If you are a woman think back at what you want in a man and then think about all of the guys you’ve dated. How many match that, then think about all of the nice guys that actually treated you will be just did not turn you on, or you just weren’t that into them.

They never even got a chance. If you are a man reading this just observe the women you know the women you have desired and look at who they have dated and, how they have been treated, and how it was different from what they said they wanted, yet they kept running back to him.  While they cried on your shoulder.

How ever there is some advice women give that is very good such as fashion, makeovers, often sexual advice about how to please a women is good, but I have found for the most part dating advice that women give does not work. I teach men that “What a woman wants and what she responds to are usually two entirely different things” which is the reason why most men are confused and don’t understand why when they do what she says she wants she still is not attracted to him.

I don’t know if you have read many romance novels but the story’s are not about nice men treating women with love and respect. They are about bad boys that are often mean, untamed, makes her cry and is very sexual and she has to win him over.  But it’s not politically correct for woman to say I want a bad boy that will treat me like dirt, put me on a emotional roller coaster,  give me the challenge to win his heart, and find his good side and oh yeah and I want to him to throw me on the bed dominate me and F#$% my brains out like he just got out of jail also!

So they give crappy politically correct treat women with respect, buy her flowers, tell her she pretty, and make her feel loved B.S. advice. That actually turns the woman off if she has not earned that treatment
and then she goes out looking for the bad boy again. Only after having her heart broken and usually in her late 30’s does she start to give nice guys a chance, generally becuase the bad boy are not interested in her any more and she has gained a few pounds. What a reward for being a nice guy. )

I also don’t believe any woman is going to tell men how to get the upper hand in a relationship or over a woman (even though unconsciously they crave the man to be dominant.) They know they have most men brainwashed and controlled and I don’t think they want to lose the power in the dating arena. Because as it stands now, we have to do all of the work, deal with the rejection, pay for the dates and play by their rules and time table…unless we choose to take the red pill and wake up from the Matrix of Bullshit! (Do you want to take the red pill I have a few left!)

Men on the other hand are very simple in their motivations and desires when it comes to women. Feed us, boost our ego and have sex with us, and keep yourself looking good and were pretty much happy.

I’m about to do an interview with very beautiful woman that is a good friend of mine and I sent out an email to my list asking “What question would you like to ask a beautiful woman?”

One of the replies I received back was actually from a woman stating…

“what makes you think that beautiful women think differently?”

So I thought I’d answer that here on my blog for all to see and to get some insight on why beautiful women think differently.

“Hi Elaine,

Thank you for your question…

Being that I know, have known and dated a number of beautiful women and I also have friends that are not as beautiful I know that beautiful women think differently becuase their reality is different from average looking women.

People treat the special based solely on their looks. They get into clubs faster often with no wait at all. They get hired as bartenders with almost no experience when a qualified man has to bar back for up to 2 years first and they get cut last when layoffs come around (at least in Vegas).

NOTE: I don’t want to make this about the special treatment women get over men that’s a whole other story and all women and men should read The Myth of Male Power. Women will see what it’s like to be a man and men will wake up from the lie we have been sold.

If you have ever seen the shows on TV where they take average women and beautiful women and pretend to drop their groceries or their car breaks down. You see how every man comes to the beautiful woman’s rescue yet not the other woman.

The truth is most of them are not even deserving of it and are selfish, demanding, flaky and have nothing else to offer but their looks.  At least in my experience and the experience almost everyman I have talked to. But just the same they are given more opportunities than the average man or women.

Most men are intimidated by beautiful women and are afraid of them especially nice guys. Which why very attractive women often end up with total assholes as boyfriends as they are usually the only men that have the balls to approach and talk to them and not kiss their ass like everyone else.

Many skate through life by relying on their looks alone and have spent little if any time to develop themselves spiritually (and I’m not talking about religion) or develop their personality and to many a book is to them like cryptonite is to superman.  One reason is that they are generally bombarded with social offers from age 16 on continuously and are almost never single for any length of time.

They just never needed to have anything but looks so they never bothered. I mean I’m sure I would not have spent nearly as much time developing myself personally if since the age of 16 I was constantly asked out and offered sex by almost every attractive woman I met. How would I have had the time and why would I care I’d be having so much fun. But I also would not be the well rounded intelligent person I was today, so there is the downside. In fairness there are tons of good looking shallow men as well, but they can’t get away with it like women can. Men are required to have a brain or both men and women look down on them.

A lot of women are jealous of beautiful women as well and often trying to compete with them. So you see their  reality is NOT one of the average women and when your reality is that different your thinking MUST be different. Just as Rich person thinks much differently from a poor person, and great athletes think differently than couch potatoes, in almost every aspect of their lives other than the core human desires of survival, wanting connection and love etc…

By your email address I’m guessing you’re a model and you are attractive. If so then you have no idea what I am talking about becuase it is your natural reality and you think it’s also everyone else’s but it’s not. And unless you have been less attractive in the past you have no point of reference or contrasting experience to understand it by.

That’s why some of the coolest women I have met were ugly ducklings that became beautiful swans. That experience gave them compassion for others, and appreciation & gratitude for what they now have, and also time to develop themselves on the inside as they grew into their beauty.

The saddest case is the woman that has been beautiful all of her life and never needed  nor took the time to develop her inner self or personality, often rude and demanding, with a huge ego. When her looks start to fade and there is nothing on the inside she has no value to anyone at all, as who wants to be with a shallow, selfish, demanding, ego maniac that not all that hot anymore. After all she was really only good for one thing and sometimes not even good at that. ;o)

Anyway I am going to be interviewing some very attractive women starting with a friend of mine that does have a heart of gold and is not only a very beautiful women model but also a mother of 2 sons.

I hope this answers your question.

Nico”

PS: To those few rare women that are beautiful both on the inside and out I salute you and thank you as you make the world a better place and truly inspire us as men to be better ourselves.

PPS: When I speak of beauty, beauty is in the eye of the boholder, however what I am talking about in this article is the general concenus of what is considered beautiful in the American Culture where I live. How ever no matter if you are in a tribe in africa where being fat with bones in your nose or in the moutains of the amazon were certain marking are considered more attractive, if you are considered beautiful what I said applies.

I wrote an blog post on my myspace blog (See Below) and one of my student came up with some really great questions that I decided I would also share the answers 2 on here.

The Blog Post:
For every girl that has a broken heart...

For every girl that has a broken heart…over some lying, cheating, jerk that treated her like crap. There are 10 nice guys that are heart broken because they have never even been given a chance, because they are invisible, because they are too nice.

Women have the power to change the world and make it a better place but they don’t do it. If women would not have sex with men that are thugs, gangsters, crooks, unethical, and dishonest. Those men would either die out or change their ways.

But women don’t do that in fact many women get into relationships with men in prison or repeat offenders as soon as the get on death row. They run back to those that abuse them.

A convicted wife beater once said “Women are like dogs the more you beat them the more they love you!”

Yet most smart, nice, honest, guys can’t get laid to save their life. Unless they make it big and get rich or famous. Will it ever change?

His Question:

An interesting question, Nico, but here is another one; You, Nico, you seem to get a lot of attention from women… and I know that you are not ’some lying, cheating, jerk that treated her like crap’. You would not do that. So is it safe to assume that you are ‘rich or famous’?

Also I don’t believe in that ‘dogs/women love you more when you beat them theory’. I respectfully disagree with that ‘convicted wife beater’… I have come across some legal reports where battered wives set their husbands on fire while they were asleep as an act of revenge. I don’t think being violent is the best way to get unconditional love from your woman (or your dog). lol.

My answer:

Those are some very good questions…You lawyers always seem to come up with some good ones…lol

1. While I’m not Rich & Famous (but working on it…lol) I’m not poor and in some social circles I am fairly recognizable.

2. I also don’t condone the abuse or beating of women, dogs (or any other animal) or even other men unless in self-defense. And in extreme cases where the abuse is very bad or over a very long period of time they often turn on the person and attack back, both women and dogs. But the fact remains women do run back to abusive men over and over again.

So how is it that according to what I have said above that I attract women?

Those Abusive Men and Jerks also have some other good qualities that women are attracted to such as…

Taking charge, Confidence, standing their ground, putting her in her place when she gets out of line, and high inner status a sense of humor, very sexually aggressive, all of which are classic alpha male qualities. I assume most also have a soft side as well.

Well I also have those traits albeit I worked hard to develop many of them as I was raised without a father figure, most of my life. I just don’t have the abusive or violent side.

So a man like me is what most of those women are really looking for as far as qualities go (looks on the other hand are subjective, I may or may not be physically attractive depending on the woman image of what she deems attractive) As those women generally are not looking to be abused (some however are or have a subconscious pattern than makes them seek abuse over and over again.)

But when I was younger and stupid I used to punch holes in walls, throw cell phones at the ground and break shit (always my own stuff) until I realized that it was costing me too much money and grew up.

But some women like that stupid shit, well let’s not say they actually like it, but it does give them something to talk about with all of their girlfriends and keep you in their mind all day…lol It also keeps them wondering “What crazy stupid thing is he going to do next!” As opposed to the boring smart, even tempered nice guy who is predictable and did I mention boring.

Drama equals excitement for some people. Why did I do it because I felt I need to show someone how upset I was. Yes it was immature, and stupid but you know what I never had a girl leave me for it. It provides a emotional roller coaster that they most often are more than happy to ride.

Think about it women love to watch soaps (Drama), read romance novels (Drama), talk about their friends problems (Drama). Most of them are basically Drama junkies and nice guys are to boring.

So to some it up I have many of the Alpha Male traits. I’m not boring because of my lifestyle, have social proof and I have the soft side as well.

Does that mean all women will be attracted to me. No, the women that are truly attracted to hardcore abusive men that look like white trash, thugs will not be into me. And the gold diggers looking for a free ride also not find much here as I am not out to buy anyone.

Smart women generally love me because unlike most of the guys they are attracted to physically I can talk about things other than, bands, trucks, and extreme sports and actually like to hear what they have to say. The only problems is most really hot women are not that smart because everyone let’s them slide by on their looks so they have no reason to develop their mind.

The thing that still amazes me is women that are attracted to men that look, like white trash, act like what trash, talk like white trash, start fights or has a history of hitting women. And then they are surprised when they get hit or beaten Or maybe it’s the excitement and drama wondering “Is he going to hit me?”

Zack asks…

“I always see the hottest chicks with the same old boring dudes with the short hair cut. But I love standing out! I use to spike my hair but I felt like I looked like every one else. I see you have long hair and I’m curious about your success.

What do you think should I grow my hair out or cut it short?”

I have not had time to update my pictures or do any new videos lately but I have cut my hair it’s about half way up my neck and the sides down to my chin which is still considered long by today standards and styles. (But it’s not considered long by most men with long hair until it’s past you shoulders.)

First I have to say that the reason I have had long hair most of my life is also that I felt I looked like everyone else. And other men with long hair often feel the same way which is why they grow it out.

At times in the past long hair has been a major advantage for men in attracting women especially in the 80’s and early 90’s then after that it was not in style.

Because mass media i.e.  MTV, movies dictate to society what is cool, long hair (past the shoulders) has been out for quite awhile. It’s starting to come back in again though. If you look at the young rockstars starting to come up many have longer hair, the 15-16 year old boys are growing their hair long.

Which leads me to the next point. The girls attracted to long hair right now are15-16 year old (girls because it’s cool to have long hair again in that age range but only if it’s that skinny emo rocker look.) Then on the other end 35-45 year old rocker chicks that still think it’s the 80’s will be drooling over you.  So you will mostly attract underage girls that could get you in trouble or older women that you probably don’t want to attract in the first place. (In all fairness there are a few, a very few, older women 35-45 that are really hot if they have taken care of them self. And they are much better in bed than the younger women)

Most hot women in the age range of 21-34 DON’T like long hair. It’s an instant turn off to them. Sure there are 2% of those hot women that instantly like long hair but they are far and few between.

Why did I cut my hair. The same reason I believe Chris Angel did I think. Which was to attract a younger and hotter demographic. I checked out his myspace page, Nick Manning’s (porn Star) page and other guys that had similar looks.  Most of the comments were from older women on all of the pages of that I looked at.

So I would not recommend long hair for attracting women. Why set obstacles in your path.

Now if you have game and are interesting and really look good with long hair you can over come it. I did. I have had many women tell me that they did not like long hair on guys but they liked it on me and hooked up with me and yes they were hot.
(To see the kind of women that I date, hook up with and are my friends and my different hair styles visit my personal blog look at “my pics” http://nicosimonprincely.com/blog/)

Bottom line if you want long hair do it for you, that’s why I did it and I actually felt more confident with long hair at one point so that made me more attractive to women.

You will find some women that love it, some will hate it, some will do you just because it’s different and some will absolutely not hook up with you because you have long hair. I have experienced all of the above personally.

In the next 3 years those 16 year olds that like it will be 18-19 so maybe then it will pay off then.

Attraction Tip #1:
If you want to attract a certain type of woman look at the type of men they go for. If all of the hot chicks are going for guys with short boring hair then that’s what they are attracted to. Don’t think by growing long hair you are going to swoop in there and take those short haired guys women. Those women are with them because that is what they want.

Just like here in Vegas most of the women go for guys covered in Tattoos and a Mohawk is a big turn on for them. So don’t think your going to be mister GQ and take all of their women I have heard women say here “I HATE PRETTY BOYS!” They actually prefer ugly men (by conventional standards).

But I am not about to get a bunch of tats and walk around with my hair looking like a Rooster to get laid. Sorry that’s just not me. But remember looks is only a part of what attracts women and not the most important one.

Attraction Tip #2:
You will also see that I had blonde hair at one time. Some women loved it! Some Hate it! You can never please everyone so just please yourself and do what makes you feel most confident and happy but, look well groomed even if you like the rough scroungy look there is a way to do it right. A good example is Johnny Depp who bounces back and forth from long to short all of the time and clean cut to scroungy and women love it all.

I  was reading on an other blog of an experience of a guy at a party  talking to a girl and the girl said out of the blue “Honestly, I would never be interested in dating a guy like you.”

He said it really hit him hard and was wondering how to get past or what to say to that so I thought I’d share my take on that with my readers.

First off he might have been projecting a neediness or body language that was making her feel that he was hitting on her, I also did not see how he was dressed or how she was dressed. For example if the girl looks like one of the Suicide Girls and he has the prep frat boy look there is a major obstacle right there.

The other thing is while I am all for being natural as you probably know from reading my blog, being natural and engaging and being natural and boring are too different things. And if your naturally boring you need to fix that.

 If he was engaging her on an emotional level she would not have said that. She was bored and there was no attraction being created.

So the correct response in a situation like this is…

Don’t take it personally when a woman says something like
“Honestly, I would never be interested in dating a guy like you”

Don’t give it any power over you at all. Because you have no idea what that really means. I have had women that would not date me and then after I found out what kinds of guys she was attracted to I considered a compliment! Seriously!

One later married and total loser that Overdosed on drugs on their first date and she fell in love with him in the hospital and then married him because she said “I knew no one would ever love him as much as me” and to thank her for all of her love he beat the shit out of her a month or so later and then she divorced him.

Now do I feel bad that she would not date me? HELL NO! She’s damaged goods with all kinds of issues!

What to say when a woman says something like that…
(a few off the top of my head)

 “Why is that?” find out why it is? Maybe she is testing you?

 “Have you ever met someone that you thought was not your type and then realized…that…this person…was much more your type then you had previously thought…and you then…began to become more and more attracted to them?” This would be a NLP/Conversational hypnosis answer where you are leading her on a journey to feeling attraction for someone she was not first attracted to. But really if you do your job right the first time you should not need to do this and you have to be a master at  it to pull this off other wise you come of looking totally lame.

“Thanks for being honest. But I think you must have misunderstood, I am not interested in you either, I just like to talk to people as opposed to standing against the wall, besides it makes me look less superficial to be talking to a girl like you.” Neg me and I’ll neg you right back.

“That’s good to know because I am not at all interested in women that are not interested in me, thanks for not letting me waste my time” and walk off cold let go of it and find someone else to talk to. This is one of the best responses you just move on.

“Then you obviously lack both intelligence and depth, have a nice nite.”
Yes this is being an asshole, but in truth I feel this way if a woman is not interested in me she is an idiot (See first example) and I have said that in front of women before. Why? Because I know a lot of men and what they offer and I know my self and what I have to offer she just gave a way a winning lottery ticket stupid girl.  I also know that I generally attract women with both intelligence and depth. A tamer version of this is to say “Well there is no accounting for taste, have a nice night.”

“OMG that’s so embarrassing, (learn over and whisper in her ear) you have something hanging out of your nose!” and watch her rush away embarrassed…LOL fucked up huh…lol Immature yes, crude yes, funny yes, she may even pull out a compact and check her nose, and say “No I don’t”, just say “let me see, I guess it fell out! Thank GOD!” you have now just moved from, her not being attracted to you, to you teasing her, and it might even get her in a playful mood where you could build some attraction. This should be used on younger women.

“Once again the universe proves it is friendly and saves me from total disaster!”
 Go cosmic on her.

“That’s good to know because I’m not attracted to you either, so tell me about that _____ you were telling me about” Basically showing your disinterest but continuing the conversation.

“That’s good because you’re not really the kind of girl I go for anyway?”
 If she asks why point out any flaws she has i.e. I don’t like the way you dress. Not crazy about your hair. I’m not really into girls with tattoos, I like more petite women, I like taller women Etc… Hey I never said I was a nice guy.

Now if you asked for her number or to go somewhere as opposed to it being unsolicited and she said “”Honestly, I would never be interested in dating a guy like you.”

Then you should respect her honesty and appreciate that she did not give you her number and lead you on like a fool or give you a fake number.

And then I would use…

“That’s good to know because unlike most men that are needy and insecure I am not at all interested in women that are not interested in me, thanks for not letting me waste my time”

“Ahh…Once again the universe proves it is friendly and saves me from total disaster!”

But what you should take away from reading this is…

1. Avoid this happening by being an emotionally engaging Alpha Male in the first place.
   
2. Don’t take it personally.
3. Have fun with it. Play with her, Neg her Back. See how she likes it.
4. If she said it in response to you asking her out just respect her for her honesty.

A reader Wrote:

“How does online pick up compare and relate to pick up in the field concerning results, time frame, quality, quantity, etc? Also, assuming one is very capable at seducing over the internet, but his real life persona is slightly incongruent, or his game simply isn’t as tight in real time, how strongly will that effect his results?”

My Answer:

This is actually several questions, but they are all good so I will try to answer these as completely as I can.

(Question 1)

How does online pick up compare and relate to pick up in the field concerning results, time frame, quality, quantity, etc?

This would all depend on were you live and if you are trying to meet women locally or are open to meeting women from all over the country or world.

Let’s say you live in a small town and there are not that many attractive women in your town. Online dating can be a great help because you can search for women 20, 50, 100 miles away get to know them online and then meet and hook up. By doing this you just expanded your selection of available and attractive women that you could not have done locally in person.

Another example is when you travel. I am getting ready for a trip to San Diego and I emailed a few women got some responses back and now I have several women that want to meet me and show me around. I have how ever decided on taking a woman with me so I won’t be taking the girls up on their offers this time. But anytime I travel without a date I always line women up in the city I am planning on visiting so that I will be able to have fun and meet women and get the local scoop entertainment and dining, clubs etc…

As far as time frame nothing is as fast as a in person pickup obviously, because you meet the girl, take her home and there you go. But for many men this does not happen very often or at all.

So the reality for most men is if they are lucky enough to hit it off with a woman, they then get her number, call her in a few days, set up a date and then see her a few more times before they have sex. If all goes perfectly, but for many men once again it never makes it to the sex part and it  it was just a waste of time and money.

Where as in online dating you can also hook up quickly but generally it’s not instant, you will have a few e-mail exchanges or a chat session and then talk on the phone and then you meet in person. However if you have done it right she should be very attracted to you and will be hooking up on the first or second in person meeting.

As far as quality, I have met online and dated, very attractive trade show models, fitness models, cocktail waitresses, strippers, hair dressers, college girls etc… All of which have been very attractive. I have also done the same in person so like I said before it really depends on your location.

As far as quantity, that also depends on your location and your in person approach and pickup skill. I mean if you are in college surrounded by women and you are great at meeting women, online dating should be a second option not your first choice as you are surrounded by hot young women all day long, it’s like one big candy store!

If you are how ever in a poor location for meeting women in person or not good and meeting women then you might do better online.

But if you are in a great location and you lack ability I would suggest you get a live one-on-one coaching session with me or someone because if you don’t take advantage of a great location like college you will regret it for the rest of your life!

(Question 2)

Assuming one is very capable at seducing over the internet, but his real life persona is slightly incongruent, or his game simply isn’t as tight in real time, how strongly will that affect his results?

Yes it will affect your results and you will not be the same person you are online. But really if you have done your seduction online all you have to do is NOT screw it up when you meet.

I have often met girls and had sex with them in as soon as 5 minutes to 2 hours after just a few online exchanges, 2 times that I remember I hardly even spoke when we met because the attraction was already so strong. Of course you should always try to improve your live in person game as it will only help you.

You should also use your strong points. If you’re good on the phone, get her on the phone, if your better online stay online, if your better in person, you might not get as sexual online and then seduce her in person.

If she is not local to you and travel is required you will always get sexual online before you meet if you are traveling specifically to see her.

If you are talking to more conservative women you will not get sexual online and you will seduce her in person.

I have done all of the above. Who you are and your strengths and weaknesses and the location of the woman will determine the exact path you take.

I hope this answers your questions.

Nico

A reader wrote:

Hey Nico! How do you get over that fear of actually meeting up with women you meet online? I have met many great women online, but feel that meeting face-to-face feels akward and unnatural. You also don’t want to disappoint the other person. Thanks man! Michael

Hi Michael,

You should not have any fear of meeting a woman that you have been talking to as long as you have been honest about who you are and you actually look like your pictures.

There is nothing unnatural or awkward about meeting a woman that is already interested in you. The hard part is over, all you have to do now is just be the same person you were when you were talking to her online.

When you go to meet her you should fell the same way as when you go to see one of your friends that you have known for awhile.

Try this…Site down and close your eye and imagine that she is a old friend that has moved away and that you have been talking to her online and when you go see her you might feel excited but you would never feel nervous or awkward because you already know her, see her greeting you warmly and you both have a great time. Imagine this until you feel it. Then go meet her.

If you act like you have known each other for ever she will also feel that way, if you feel awkward and unnatural she will also feel that too and it will kill all that you have built.

Think of it this way, if she didn’t want to meet you and did not like you she would not be meeting you in person PERIOD.

Also you said “You also don’t want to disappoint the other person.”

This is coming from the wrong state of mind. Why would she be disappointed? That statement reeks of insecurity and low self-confidence which are two of the biggest turn offs to women.

You should NEVER think anything other than this girl is going to love me and have a great time and she is so lucky to meet me.

In fact you should say that as many times a day as you need to until you feel it to be true and then it will be.

I meet girls online and when we meet in person they often greet me with a hug, or we start kissing just a short time after meeting. Why, because I am relaxed, and I expect to be well received and it telegraphs through all of my actions.

Attraction between a man and a woman is one of the most natural things in life, right next to eating and going to the bathroom…lol

Really there would not be billions of people on this planet if that was not the case.

Never worry about it, just feel natural about it and let it happen and get out of your own way.

Nico

I just got an email from a viewer of my videos. His situation is such a common one I decided to post my response here on my blog.

“My MySpace looks fun and attractive to me, and as far as I’m concerned, that’s all that matters. So far the only women who have sought me out through MySpace are those webcam whores who are looking for as many “friends” as possible to brag about to their real life peers and/or to steal my credit card info. No thanks.

My frustration comes out of me actually doing VERY WELL with women socially. I make them feel comfortable with me, I respect them and they respect me, I am a great conversationalist/listener, basically I’m what almost every woman I meet would consider a great guy. But the SECOND I make any sort of indication that I want to get personally involved, they freak out and never want to speak to me again. Apart from paying patronage to the bar/nightclub scene (a scene which I experimented with and felt completely out of my element), there’s not a lot that I’m doing different from more successful guys. I can make friends very easily, but I’m somehow unable to attract women the way my friends do.”

MY ANSWER…

I am not one to bullshit and waste my time or yours. So I am going to give it to you straight. I can tell a lot by what you said in your e-mail without even seeing what you look like.

First of you said “My MySpace looks fun and attractive to me, and as far as I’m concerned, that’s all that matters. “ WRONG that’s not what matters. That’s a cop out! What matters is if it produces the results you desire period. And it’s not. Your opinion does not matter.

Your attitude is that you don’t care if it works so then stop complaining about it not working since you are obviously not open to trying something else. You can expect the same results you are getting now, forever, since you are unwilling to change.

You sound like someone that wants to lose weight but is not willing to stop eating a dozen donuts and sitting on the couch all day long everyday. Meaning if you want to change your life you have to “Change Your Life” Until your willing to do that expect the same results you are getting now.

Second, you are a typical nice guy. How do I know? Because I used to be one and was never more miserable in my life.

I can read it loud and clear when you say…

“My frustration comes out of me actually doing VERY WELL with women socially.”

Now let’s be honest here. You are doing terrible with women becuase you are not getting to a sexual level with them. Who cares if you have a bunch of women friends.

Are they doing anything for you? When was the last time one took you to dinner, brought you food when you were sick, helped you with something, set you up with a friend of theirs, invited you to a party? If you going to have women friends make sure they are earning their keep and doing something of real value in your life and being real friends and helping you to meet other women. If they are not then remove them from your life. And DON’T SPEND ANY MONEY ON THEM make them pay their own way. Or they see “NICE GUY – SUCKER” written all over your face every time they look at you.

I don’t believe in the PENIS TAX (Meaning you pay for women becuase your a man, that’s a con job women make stupid men fall for. And if a woman if uses that “A REAL MAN PAYS FOR WOMEN” manipulation tactic or calls you cheap don’t fall for it they are only out to use you for what ever they can get. If your not sleeping with her she should pay her own way, becuase after all you’re just friends right. My female friends (many of which I have had sex with in the past and now we are just friends) know they have to pull their weight and be real friends and pay their own way.

Often I make the girls I have sex with pay their own way or even take me to dinner sometimes and so do all of the men I know that are most successful with women. (Some of you men reading this are thinking this is bullshit that it can’t possibly be true that women take me to dinner. Let me tell you when a woman really likes you and wants you she will take you to dinner, all of my girlfriends I have ever had took me out to dinner at some point before they became my girlfriends, being amazing in bed also helps. The price of dinner is nothing to a woman who you just gave the best sex of her life) I also reciprocate and I am very thoughtful and generous once a woman has proven her loyalty, friendship and earned my trust through her actions, but that takes awhile and a lot on her part.

You also said “there’s not a lot that I’m doing different from more successful guys.”

Yes there is a lot you are doing different but it’s all very subtle and you are not seeing it, but the women are and it starts with your mindset and is reflecting in all of your actions.

I used to be the nice guy and sound just like you.

Your problem stems from…

1.The fact that you have no understanding of what women respond to. You are listening to what they say they want or advice from other women like your mother or sister or female friends. NEVER listen to advice from women about what women want in a man. Why? Because what women are sexually attracted to is unconscious to them so they will tell you what they consciously want and not what they are unconsciously attracted to. Which is NOT what they respond to.

In fact their intellect and ego will often prevent them from telling you what turns them on. Because no self respecting woman is going to come out and say “I like a man that puts me on an emotional roller coaster and makes me feel insecure, and puts me in my place.” Yet that is exactly the guys they date.

I spent years developing myself into what I mistakenly thought women wanted based on what they say they want. I was intelligent, I was good in bed, I was honest, I respected them, I was a Gentleman, I was sensitive. I went 2 years without getting laid one time and over a year another time. None of those qualities matter to women in the realm of sexual attraction.

I was in a celibate hell in which I watched women I was attracted to have sex with pricks, assholes, jerks, that were selfish in bed and that did not give a shit about them while they flaked and snubbed me or just wanted to be my friend. And no one could tell me what was wrong with me, it was not my looks, or how I dressed. It was in my mind and in my actions and behavior.

2. You are not open to change. You want different results by doing the same actions and it’s never going to happen.

Solution:

1. Learn The Psychology of Attraction and what women want and take action and apply it. (This Blog and newsletter will help.)

2. Change your beliefs about women, yourself and your ability to attract women and get sexual with them and then act accordingly.

If you want real help with your situation and want to make a real transformation I am available for private one-on-one coaching. Or you can just stay in your current situation for as long as you like. It makes no difference to me I really don’t need the money, but I like to help people that truly want to change their life.

Anonymous Wrote:

“What to tell her the first time I meet a woman, how to meet her first, what to write to make her respond, in fact, pretty much
everything concerning how to get into a relationship. I am 24 year old guy…A virgin, never had a girlfriend before, scared of what
to tell a girl….just a NOVICE when it comes to relationship…So please, tell me all I need to know when trying to meet a woman”

Hi Anonymous,

This actually goes beyond the scope of online dating which is what this site & newsletter is about. If it has not happened for you by 24 and you want it to then it means there are some real issues that need to be handled beyond what to say in your opening e-mail or how to get her number.

Because even if you get her to meet you the odds are you will blow it in person. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age if that is what you choose but if you want to start being sexually active and the thought “God! I need to get laid!” is always entering your mind it’s time to do something about it as you don’t want to end up a 30 or 40 year old virgin.

I was virgin until I was 21 myself. I was a late bloomer could hardly talk to women that I did not know and could not approach
women in high school. In fact in high school I had one date and it was terrible I had no clue about how to act around girls.

I had girls that liked me off and on but I was always to timid to make a move or they were girls I was not that into or they were not perfect.

I made out with a girl for the first time when I was 18 a few months later I could have had sex with her also, but I chose not to because I was not that into her. I few months later I could have had sex with another girl we did everything but intercourse because I didn’t have a condom. I choose to wait again.

When I was 21 I was tired of waiting and a girl I knew (she was 18 and pretty hot) that was into me came over after my birthday party and I had sex for the very first time.

Which lasted for all of 30 seconds…lol 10 minutes later we did it again and she was blown away because I had red so much about sex
that I did not seem like a virgin. We saw each other a few more times and had sex before it ended.

My point of telling my story is it’s ok to wait until you are ready but when you are ready you need to do something about it and if you can’t do it on your own no matter what reason is you might need some help to get things going, once the ball is set in motion the right way it will get easier and easier.

The reason I say the right way is you don’t want to get lucky you want to be a man and be able to attract women and take it to a sexual level so that you know how to do it and you can do it again with other women when ever you choose.

Now online dating can play apart in this but you might be in need of something more in depth like my “Virgin to Man” program, where I work with guys one on one or in a group (if I have enough guys) in person and help then remove all obstacles in their way and then teach them the skills they need to become a man and attract women.

I have both online and in person versions of this and I have to be honest this works much better in person. If you want more info on my program e-mail me.

But in the mean time I have a few suggestions for you…

1. Don’t worry about being a virgin or feel insecure about it. Having sex is just another one of lifes great experiences that you have not experienced yet. Just like jumping out of an airplane and skydiving, eating foods you have never tried before or taking up a new sport. It’s nothing less or more than that.
2. Some men feel you should hide the fact that you are a virgin because it might be a turn of to some women that like an experienced man. But I don’t agree. The girl I lost my virginity to knew I was a virgin and she was on mission to take my virginity from me.
    In fact many women would love to take be a mans first and these women will also be much more understanding because they know it’s your first time.
   So I would suggest that you never hide it and if asked openly tell women that ask that you are a virgin and tell them yo view it a just another experience that you have no had yet, like skydiving or driving 150 Mhp in a Lamborghini on the autobahn in Europe.
3. Learn as much as you can about sexual performance and technique so that you will be confident and have at least some idea of how to please your partner when you do have sex for the first time. Start with my Greatlover 101 course and I also suggest my e-books sold at http://www.greatlovers.com and at http://www.femaleejaculations.com
4. If a women laughs or does not like that you’re a virgin she was the wrong one for you and there is no loss there at all, you just weeded out a woman that was not right for your first time.
5. Most peoples both men and women’s first time suck or are disapointing. Trust me it will get better and better if you learn how to be a great lover!

 I am sorry that I can’t give you more info but your situation is not something that can be solved in a single e-mail.

I hope this helps and as always my goal is your success,

Nico Simon Princely

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Eric Wrote:
“What should I wear on my first date?”

Hi Eric,

You ask a question that many men ask themselves right before going to meet a woman that they have been talking to online and are now going to meet for the first time.

So let me give you some tips… 

This is just like a call back when you go on a casting call for an acting role. You want to go dressed similar in style to how you look in your pictures in your profile. Because this is what she is used to seeing and fits the mental image of you in her head. This is also the look that she has become attracted to.

It also depends on where you are going to meet her. If you follow my system for meeting women online you will be meeting her in a very casual setting in a public place. So you should dress casual.

You should never get all dressed up for a first meeting. While women do this, when a man does it makes him look like he is trying too hard to impress her. There are exceptions of course if you are coming from work to meet her and you are wearing a suit because you just got off work that’s ok as long as she knows you just came from work. But you almost always to better when dress very casual and relaxed like you could really care less what she thinks.

If you are going to be meeting up at a club (which I don’t recommend for a first meeting) You should be wearing trendy clothing (which means Designer Jeans that cost $200 a pair like Bad Religon, Desel, Etc… and Over priced T-Shirts like Ed Hardy, Affliction etc.) 

Make sure your clothes are clean and in good condition unless they are that worn look that is in style right now. (I’ll take that $100 T-Shirt, no not that one, the one with the tears and holes please.)

Wear nice clean shoes, women always look at a man’s shoes for some reason (Maybe it’s because nice shoes cost a lot of money and they are sizing you up financially?) and grungy shoes are a turn off for most women.

If you are not getting the women you want you may need to change your style (among other things). Attractive women that have style generally prefer men that have a sense of style and stays current and looks somewhat in fashion.

Your confidence, actions and attitude are far more important than how you dress, but dressing right can set things in your favor from that start and make every thing else go that much easier. 

 I hope this answers your question.

Your success is my goal,

Nico Simon Princely

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dating please visit the url below:
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covering other online dating topics that are not in my newsletter
on my blog. So Visit http://www.pickupwomenonline.com/blog/

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