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For every girl that has a broken heart...

For every girl that has a broken heart…over some lying, cheating, jerk that treated her like crap. There are 10 nice guys that are heart broken because they have never even been given a chance, because they are invisible, because they are too nice.

Women have the power to change the world and make it a better place but they don’t do it. If women would not have sex with men that are thugs, gangsters, crooks, unethical, and dishonest. Those men would either die out or change their ways.

But women don’t do that in fact many women get into relationships with men in prison or repeat offenders as soon as the get on death row. They run back to those that abuse them.

A convicted wife beater once said “Women are like dogs the more you beat them the more they love you!”

Yet most smart, nice, honest, guys can’t get laid to save their life. Unless they make it big and get rich or famous. Will it ever change?

His Question:

An interesting question, Nico, but here is another one; You, Nico, you seem to get a lot of attention from women… and I know that you are not ’some lying, cheating, jerk that treated her like crap’. You would not do that. So is it safe to assume that you are ‘rich or famous’?

Also I don’t believe in that ‘dogs/women love you more when you beat them theory’. I respectfully disagree with that ‘convicted wife beater’… I have come across some legal reports where battered wives set their husbands on fire while they were asleep as an act of revenge. I don’t think being violent is the best way to get unconditional love from your woman (or your dog). lol.

My answer:

Those are some very good questions…You lawyers always seem to come up with some good ones…lol

1. While I’m not Rich & Famous (but working on it…lol) I’m not poor and in some social circles I am fairly recognizable.

2. I also don’t condone the abuse or beating of women, dogs (or any other animal) or even other men unless in self-defense. And in extreme cases where the abuse is very bad or over a very long period of time they often turn on the person and attack back, both women and dogs. But the fact remains women do run back to abusive men over and over again.

So how is it that according to what I have said above that I attract women?

Those Abusive Men and Jerks also have some other good qualities that women are attracted to such as…

Taking charge, Confidence, standing their ground, putting her in her place when she gets out of line, and high inner status a sense of humor, very sexually aggressive, all of which are classic alpha male qualities. I assume most also have a soft side as well.

Well I also have those traits albeit I worked hard to develop many of them as I was raised without a father figure, most of my life. I just don’t have the abusive or violent side.

So a man like me is what most of those women are really looking for as far as qualities go (looks on the other hand are subjective, I may or may not be physically attractive depending on the woman image of what she deems attractive) As those women generally are not looking to be abused (some however are or have a subconscious pattern than makes them seek abuse over and over again.)

But when I was younger and stupid I used to punch holes in walls, throw cell phones at the ground and break shit (always my own stuff) until I realized that it was costing me too much money and grew up.

But some women like that stupid shit, well let’s not say they actually like it, but it does give them something to talk about with all of their girlfriends and keep you in their mind all day…lol It also keeps them wondering “What crazy stupid thing is he going to do next!” As opposed to the boring smart, even tempered nice guy who is predictable and did I mention boring.

Drama equals excitement for some people. Why did I do it because I felt I need to show someone how upset I was. Yes it was immature, and stupid but you know what I never had a girl leave me for it. It provides a emotional roller coaster that they most often are more than happy to ride.

Think about it women love to watch soaps (Drama), read romance novels (Drama), talk about their friends problems (Drama). Most of them are basically Drama junkies and nice guys are to boring.

So to some it up I have many of the Alpha Male traits. I’m not boring because of my lifestyle, have social proof and I have the soft side as well.

Does that mean all women will be attracted to me. No, the women that are truly attracted to hardcore abusive men that look like white trash, thugs will not be into me. And the gold diggers looking for a free ride also not find much here as I am not out to buy anyone.

Smart women generally love me because unlike most of the guys they are attracted to physically I can talk about things other than, bands, trucks, and extreme sports and actually like to hear what they have to say. The only problems is most really hot women are not that smart because everyone let’s them slide by on their looks so they have no reason to develop their mind.

The thing that still amazes me is women that are attracted to men that look, like white trash, act like what trash, talk like white trash, start fights or has a history of hitting women. And then they are surprised when they get hit or beaten Or maybe it’s the excitement and drama wondering “Is he going to hit me?”

“My MySpace looks fun and attractive to me, and as far as I’m concerned, that’s all that matters. So far the only women who have sought me out through MySpace are those webcam whores who are looking for as many “friends” as possible to brag about to their real life peers and/or to steal my credit card info. No thanks.

My frustration comes out of me actually doing VERY WELL with women socially. I make them feel comfortable with me, I respect them and they respect me, I am a great conversationalist/listener, basically I’m what almost every woman I meet would consider a great guy. But the SECOND I make any sort of indication that I want to get personally involved, they freak out and never want to speak to me again. Apart from paying patronage to the bar/nightclub scene (a scene which I experimented with and felt completely out of my element), there’s not a lot that I’m doing different from more successful guys. I can make friends very easily, but I’m somehow unable to attract women the way my friends do.”

MY ANSWER…

I am not one to bullshit and waste my time or yours. So I am going to give it to you straight. I can tell a lot by what you said in your e-mail without even seeing what you look like.

First of you said “My MySpace looks fun and attractive to me, and as far as I’m concerned, that’s all that matters. “ WRONG that’s not what matters. That’s a cop out! What matters is if it produces the results you desire period. And it’s not. Your opinion does not matter.

Your attitude is that you don’t care if it works so then stop complaining about it not working since you are obviously not open to trying something else. You can expect the same results you are getting now, forever, since you are unwilling to change.

You sound like someone that wants to lose weight but is not willing to stop eating a dozen donuts and sitting on the couch all day long everyday. Meaning if you want to change your life you have to “Change Your Life” Until your willing to do that expect the same results you are getting now.

Second, you are a typical nice guy. How do I know? Because I used to be one and was never more miserable in my life.

I can read it loud and clear when you say…

“My frustration comes out of me actually doing VERY WELL with women socially.”

Now let’s be honest here. You are doing terrible with women becuase you are not getting to a sexual level with them. Who cares if you have a bunch of women friends.

Are they doing anything for you? When was the last time one took you to dinner, brought you food when you were sick, helped you with something, set you up with a friend of theirs, invited you to a party? If you going to have women friends make sure they are earning their keep and doing something of real value in your life and being real friends and helping you to meet other women. If they are not then remove them from your life. And DON’T SPEND ANY MONEY ON THEM make them pay their own way. Or they see “NICE GUY – SUCKER” written all over your face every time they look at you.

I don’t believe in the PENIS TAX (Meaning you pay for women becuase your a man, that’s a con job women make stupid men fall for. And if a woman if uses that “A REAL MAN PAYS FOR WOMEN” manipulation tactic or calls you cheap don’t fall for it they are only out to use you for what ever they can get. If your not sleeping with her she should pay her own way, becuase after all you’re just friends right. My female friends (many of which I have had sex with in the past and now we are just friends) know they have to pull their weight and be real friends and pay their own way.

Often I make the girls I have sex with pay their own way or even take me to dinner sometimes and so do all of the men I know that are most successful with women. (Some of you men reading this are thinking this is bullshit that it can’t possibly be true that women take me to dinner. Let me tell you when a woman really likes you and wants you she will take you to dinner, all of my girlfriends I have ever had took me out to dinner at some point before they became my girlfriends, being amazing in bed also helps. The price of dinner is nothing to a woman who you just gave the best sex of her life) I also reciprocate and I am very thoughtful and generous once a woman has proven her loyalty, friendship and earned my trust through her actions, but that takes awhile and a lot on her part.

You also said “there’s not a lot that I’m doing different from more successful guys.”

Yes there is a lot you are doing different but it’s all very subtle and you are not seeing it, but the women are and it starts with your mindset and is reflecting in all of your actions.

I used to be the nice guy and sound just like you.

Your problem stems from…

1.The fact that you have no understanding of what women respond to. You are listening to what they say they want or advice from other women like your mother or sister or female friends. NEVER listen to advice from women about what women want in a man. Why? Because what women are sexually attracted to is unconscious to them so they will tell you what they consciously want and not what they are unconsciously attracted to. Which is NOT what they respond to.

In fact their intellect and ego will often prevent them from telling you what turns them on. Because no self respecting woman is going to come out and say “I like a man that puts me on an emotional roller coaster and makes me feel insecure, and puts me in my place.” Yet that is exactly the guys they date.

I spent years developing myself into what I mistakenly thought women wanted based on what they say they want. I was intelligent, I was good in bed, I was honest, I respected them, I was a Gentleman, I was sensitive. I went 2 years without getting laid one time and over a year another time. None of those qualities matter to women in the realm of sexual attraction.

I was in a celibate hell in which I watched women I was attracted to have sex with pricks, assholes, jerks, that were selfish in bed and that did not give a shit about them while they flaked and snubbed me or just wanted to be my friend. And no one could tell me what was wrong with me, it was not my looks, or how I dressed. It was in my mind and in my actions and behavior.

2. You are not open to change. You want different results by doing the same actions and it’s never going to happen.

Solution:

1. Learn The Psychology of Attraction and what women want and take action and apply it. (This Blog and newsletter will help.)

2. Change your beliefs about women, yourself and your ability to attract women and get sexual with them and then act accordingly.

If you want real help with your situation and want to make a real transformation I am available for private one-on-one coaching. Or you can just stay in your current situation for as long as you like. It makes no difference to me I really don’t need the money, but I like to help people that truly want to change their life.

“How do I get her attention to make her interested in a conversation?”

“How can I get girls to respond back to me when I email them?”

“I can’t even get women to reply to my e-mails, what do I do?”

Without question the questions that I am asked most often about online dating in some variation or another is basically “How do I get women to respond to my e-mails?”

This seems to be the biggest obstacle for most men in meeting & picking up women online. They can’t get women to respond to their opening e-mail. This is really analogous to the initial approach when meeting a woman off line in the real world.

Online via e-mail just like in the real world you only get one chance at a first impression so your opening e-mail can make or break you chance at meeting that woman you are planning to e-mail. You opening e-mail is one of the most important tools you have in meeting women online 2^nd only to your profile.

After spending 4 years online meeting women, I have learned what works and what does not work when contacting women online and distilled it down to workable consistent formula that any man can learn and use to be successful with women online with a little practice and effort.

The correct method for meeting women online is not something I can tell you in one or two paragraphs so I have written a 10 page special report in adobe .pdf format that you can download for free by signing up to my free newsletter at http://www.pickupwomenonline.com

It contains my top 4 techniques for getting women to respond to your e-mails.

Your success is my goal,

Nico Simon Princely

Definition:
fake
adj.

Having a false or misleading appearance; fraudulent.

n.

1. One that is not authentic or genuine; a sham.
2. A person that has stolen another persons picture and created a
   profile on myspace pretending to be another person.

Ok so the number one problem I have on myspace is no longer getting women to contact me. I have mastered that aspect  of online dating. The problem bow is weeding out the fakes!  Which I am pretty good at spotting now.

I even psted a blog up on my page to help prevent it.

But here are the top 5 signs that the girl you are talking to is a fake.

1. She only has pictures of herself. There are no social pictures of her with other people.

2. She has little to no text at all.

3. Her friends comments are mostly “Thanks for the add” and “You’re hot!” typs of comments. No real
conversations.

4. Her friends are mostly guys, Real women have female friends.

5. She seems too good to be true. She is a 9 or ten has a perfect personality and is online all day. There are hot
women on myspace that are real but they are too busy to be online all day long.

6. She is much hotter than most of the girl you have dated in the past. If you tend to date hot women then this
will not apply to you.

7. All of a sudden out of no where her profile is deleted or she stop talking to you for no reason. This is because she can not keep the charade going and has no other choice.

If you girl shows any of those signs she maybe fake, if she show several the odds are she really is a fake.

Now before I waste any more time than 2-3 e-mails on girl fake or real I do the following.

1. Meet her in person to see if she is real (if she is local)

2. Have her go on webcam so I can see if she is real.
3. Have her send me send me a candid mirror pic holding up a sign with what I tell her to write. (this can be faked but is not that likely)

4. Have her send me send me a candid mirror pic from her cell phone. Often these pics are very revealing )

And to every one that has been faked I suggest that you from now on ask for the above so you will never get faked out again.

If they are fakes they will most likely pull a take away on you and tell you that “Maybe we shouldn’t talk anymore” or some crap about trust. All of which is just a manipulation tactic. Then just know that they were fakes and move on and block them.

Oh and talking on the phone means nothing other than your imagining what you want to imagine and your really talking to some ugly fat chick that has a phone.

Once one of my friends spent 3 months talking on the phone to a girl that planned on moving out here and living with him an hour before the flight she called and said “I am not coming the pics arn’t mine!” He was devastated he had even stopped seeing other girls. If he had followed the above suggestions of getting proof of identity as I always do it would not have happened to him.

I personally feel that these fakes that actually play this out that think this is funny, or are role playing as some women think it’s like a video game with emotional content.  Are guys that are total losers that actually have no life, don’t get laid and have way too much free time on their hands. Not only that they are thieves, they are stealing peoples time which is their lives.

When you talk to a fake you could be spending that time talking to your friends, family, working, learning. But you are taking a chance and time out of your life to make a connection with someone on an emotional level and some selfish inconsiderate asshole is taking advantage of that and robing you of your time which remember is your life.

I just read a story about a guy that did this to a “Friend” as a joke and made his “Friend” him waste his time driving all over the place. No one needs friends like that! I hope that guy wises up and gives that friend the boot. Because it’s about as funny as giving your friend 4 flat tires and making him late for work.

So far I must have dealt with hundreds of fakes. If they don’t play by my rules I stop talking to them. That’s the best way to handle them and Ironically if it turns out to be a real woman she will respect you for being a man and having the balls to cut her off and not letting her pull your chain.

Update:
I just had another girl contact me with fake pictures. Then the next day she came clean and she was cute (she would be a lot cuter with out all of the tattoos) but It turned me off so much I was no longer ineterested… Read from the bottom up.

I am just tired of it.
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I am sorry you feel that way. Thats not truely how I am. But it is what it is.

—————– Original Message —————–
From:
Date: Dec 7, 2007 1:08 PM

No just on principal, if someones a fake and likes to play games with people like that I have no interest.

—————– Original Message —————–
From:
Date: Dec 7, 2007 12:30 PM

Also,
if you were really interested in me, you’d still be talking me.

—————– Original Message —————–
From:
Date: Dec 7, 2007 11:54 AM

I have not looked at your pics yet I might like them more than hers who knows but straight up Thats fucked up! I have at least 3-4 girls do this crap to me a month! Some try to drag it out forever and pretend to be someone else Read my blog on fakes. They waste your time when you could be working or talkng to someone else. ALL PEOPLE ARE SUPERFICIAL they have done studies and children at age 4 respond better to attractive people. Some women are more attracted to men with tattoos, or some don’t like nice guys etc… I did not contact you, you put in a friend request to me.

I liked talking to you so I kept talking to you. Most of the women where I live are as hot that girl it’s normal to me to talk to women like that.

Have a nice life.
If you had been yourself I would still be talking to you

—————– Original Message —————–
From: .
Date: Dec 7, 2007 6:24 AM

Ok so let’s start this morning with. That page you saw yesturday was not me. That girl Kandi is one of the most beautiful girls, and successful as well. I am a huge fan of hers. Everything I told you yesturday was true, other than my name and the pics that you saw.
I made the profile like that initially simply to prove a point that the hotter you are the superficial guys come rolling in no matter how much they tell you they are not. My real name is Aubrey, and I am a model, gogo dancer, and bartender in Tampa.
My real pics and the real me are up. Take is you may, but this was simply a test. No offence to you.

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So you have finally decided to give this online dating thing a try (or a second try) so how do you get started. Well if you believe 90% of the Hype (crap) out there you will go sign up at some over priced dating site filled with fake profiles, average looking women looking for their dream guy or a few hot girls desensitized and bombarded by e-mail from pathetic men to the point of not even signing in to check any more.

I’m going to suggest to you a very different approach. This method has worked very well for me and now I am going to share it with you step by step. This gives you an overview of exactly what you must do to successfully meet women online.

1. Go to right places online to meet women. These are not dating sites but social networking sites like Myspace.com, Facebook.com, Bebo.com and Hi5.com. There are many others but those are the biggest and the ones I suggest that you concentrate on especially Myspace.com

2. Build a quality profile that women will find attractive. Right now you’re thinking “Ok but how do I do that, because I am already on Myspace and I am not getting laid!” I am glad you asked that. Very simply a profile that is attractive to women conveys through it’s text and images that you have all or many of the qualities that women find attractive in men. A few of these qualities include, confidence, abilities, social proof, humor, success and sexual value.

3. Grow your friends list. This will give you some social proof and also the more people’s friends list you are on, the more women will see you and visit your page and if you have done your profile correctly women will contact you first.

4. Contact women. This one is often the hardest part for most men. Some women will not respond no matter what you say to them. Some women will only talk to men they know offline. Fortunately some women will respond if you say the right thing and have a solid profile that makes you look attractive. If they contact you first which is always the best situation then just follow step 5 below.

5. Continue the conversation. Once she responds you simply continue talking to her and the best way to do this is to talk to her about things she is interested in. You should be able see what her interests are on her page. Or you can ask her questions about her pictures, her pets if they are in any of the pics etc…

SIDE NOTE: You will run into women that have nothing on their page but pics and these women usually look like 9’s or 10s physically. These most often are either fake profiles or extremely dumb and shallow women that have the I.Q. of applesauce. I recommend just moving on. I mean really a woman that can’t even express themselves or take the time to write about themselves is generally too busy to talk to anyone, have A.D.D. and are extremely flaky shallow and only impressed by players spitting game, drugs, fame and money. While it is possible to hook with those girls WHY THE HELL WOULD YOU WANT TO! They are nothing but a headache, they are a total mess and personally have been the worst sex I have ever had! They all think they are God’s gift to men and that you are lucky to be with them. The only thing special about these kind of women is that they should be wearing a helmet! On the other side there are very hot women (8’s, 9’s & 10’s) that are also smart and beautiful. You can usually identify them not by just their pictures which will tend to be more tasteful yet still often times revealing but more importantly by the quality of the text on their page and in their blogs. Ok ok I go on rants once in a while, deal with it.

6. Meet her in person. After you have built up enough rapport which can happen in 30 minutes to several weeks of talking (Every woman is different. But I will tell you most of the time the longer you talk online before you meet the faster you will have sex in person. Because you are actually dating virtually but without the normal cost involved.)

7. Bring her back to your place. IF you have done all of the steps above correctly this step is almost effortless and automatic. Sex at this point is 99% guaranteed. So just go with it and act with confidence in your actions and make the move.

That’s it in a nut shell an all I have time for now.

One more thing! Very soon I am going to be teaching an E-class/Webinar that will reveal everything you need to know in depth along with a questions & answers session and profile critiquing taught by me personally. This event will be limited to only 30 men as I want to make sure that it is not over crowded. Also this event is not open to any men in the state of Nevada. (Because I am still actively using these techniques and I don’t want the competition)

If you are interested please make sure you have signed up for my mailing list and also contact me directly at: info ( a t ) pickupwomen.com (you have to replace the ( a t ) with @ (spelling it out helps to stop the spam bots. )

But while some men are having great success in meeting or picking up women online others have almost no success at all!

After over 4 years in the online dating arena and going from women ignoring my e-mails to where I have now dated and hooked up with many women that I have met online and I now have women contacting me (on a daily basis) that want to get to know me better. I want to share with you some of the biggest mistakes men when trying to meet & date women online.

1. Looking in the wrong places. Some sites are absolute crap and total rip offs. The site makes all of the difference in the world. I did terrible on traditional dating sites and even worse on adult (sex) dating sites. So I looked for new places and found my ideal niche for dating success. For me Myspace is King and while I have had success on other sites I think it the best place to meet women online.

2. Having a lame profile. A lot of men put very little or almost no effort into their profile. There is almost no text telling about themselves, nothing of any interest at all. This makes them look boring and unattractive, unless you look like Brad Pitt or just happen to be her physical type.

3. Bad pictures or the wrong type of pictures. You must have good pictures, and picture that make you look attractive. Now this does not mean that you use fakes, or old pictures that don’t look like you do now. I have seen some guys that put up a picture of them 20 years ago then you click on their pictures and they look 20 years older and 30 lbs fatter what a joke! Be honest with who you are and be confident, there are women that like older men and women that like fat men, beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. Just good clear picture that make you look the best you can.

4. Saying the wrong things in their opening e-mail. I have had women friends forward to me e-mails that guys have sent me and I’ll tell you must guys are either pathetic and pine over the woman kissing her ass or are total jackasses and make crude sexual advances. Neither of those approaches will work.

5. Emailing her too many times or too often. Even if you first response it positive that does not mean you should email her several times that day unless you are involved in a conversation. And e-mailing her if see she has read your message to find out why she never got back to you is a big no-no.

6. Trying to rush things and get instant results by trying to meet her too soon. There are times you can meet her right away and times that trying to will kill your chances with her. You have to learn when these times are and act accordingly and then set the tone for the meeting. But generally the more time you spend talking online the quicker you will hook up with her in person.

7. Treating all women the same. There are different types of women, and they respond to different approaches. You must learn what type goes with what approach. I have hooked up with very sexual women and very conservative women each required a different approach.

8. Blowing it in person. When I first started meeting women online the first meeting often felt awkward. Sometimes I would try to hard, or blow it with something I said or did, or it just didn’t go anywhere. All of these problems are the result of meeting too soon, before enough rapport or attraction is established. Once you have built rapport and attraction meeting in person is a breeze and almost always leads to hooking up.

9. Not sticking to it long enough. Many men try online dating and when they don’t have instant result or it does not work right away they give up. They try only one approach, one kind of site or one version of profile text, or one kind of look and then give up if they don’t get instant results. Sometimes you have to try different things, new pictures, new text, different sites, different types of women etc..

10. Falling for Fakes & Scams. There are a lot of fake profiles, fake girls and scams you have to watch out for. The most common is when a girl e-mails you but tell you to contact her on another site. On free sites like Myspace and Hot or Not, there is absolutely no reason for her to do this because you are already on a free site. The person sending you this is 90% of the time a man that gets paid for every person that signs up at the other site. Maybe 10% of the time it’s woman but she is also doing it for the commission as well and has no interest in meeting you at all. Tell these people that you’re not that dumb and report there account for abuse, then delete them. There are other scams and cons as well but I’ll save that for another time.

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