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I could not believe it when it came out of a man’s mouth! It just goes to show you how badly the average man is brainwashed. By women,  society etc…

I was having conversation on face book actually on a the topic of Good and Evil and being selfish and selfless when the guy said “Show me a guy who won’t pick up the check and I’ll show you a coward.”

I’ll share with you my response to this utter bullshit that men have been brainwashed by, that makes us subservient to women, as opposed to the dominant men we are by nature.

My response…

“This one is PURE BULLSHIT  “I tell my girls “Show me a guy who won’t pick up the check and I’ll show you a coward.”

So you’re perpetuating the CON JOB that women have pulled over men’s eyes. Women after demanding equal rights not only have them but also still want special treatment. Women often make more than men, yet still expect men to pay their way. Any time a women wants to manipulate a man all she has to do is attack his ego…with “If you were a real man you’d do such and such for me” or “Only a coward would do such and such”

You my friend are stabbing your own fellow man in the back when you perpetuate that outdated, belief that women use to Con Men. You’re also sub-communicating that you are looking for their approval and are easily manipulated.

This an outdated load of B.S. that puts everything in their favor and sets it up for men to be taken advantage, used and manipulated. Sure 70 years ago it made since when women did not have as much power as they do today.

Today an attractive women can virtually live of men giving nothing in return like a parasite and still work while making a living and saving all of her money. Some women have several men they rely on to pay their bill and buy them stuff.  And dumb men allow it to happen thinking “They are REAL MEN”…Yeah “REAL DUMB MEN”

When that practice was useful 70 years ago and before at that time women respected men, honored men, and valued men. If you think that still the case you are delusional.

When I go out with my female friends they know to pay their way. They are not my girlfriend, I’m not having sex with them and I’m not paying their way. And they do not to try to pull that crap with me becuase I’m smarter than that. They also respect me and value you, invite me places and hook me up. I do the same for them. Often even the women I have sex with pay their way or take me out. Why not? Are they doing me a favor to have sex with me that I need to pay for? I think not! They get as much or more pleasure in many cases (as women can have multiple orgasms) as I do.

If you want to show them a coward look in the mirror right after you say that B.S. line. Because what you are really saying when you pay their way just becuase they are female is “I don’t have the balls to respect and value myself first, I’m putting you on a pedestal, and you have more value than me and I’m looking for your approval becuase I’d rather pay than be alone.” In short I value you more than I value myself.

Women love to Scream Equal Rights and Feminist until the Check come…what a lot of crap! Then they shut up and see who is the sucker!

Women string men along like that for years, few women have the decency to say “I’m not really interested in you so I’ll pay my way, becuase it’s not fair for you to pay for me when you’re getting nothing in return.” Or ” You know you pay all of the time it’s my turn tonight”

Now if they are reciprocal and hook you up with other women, jobs, tickets, shows, contacts or are there for you then sure pay their way. But when it’s all take and no given your not being a REAL MAN you’re being fool. Ask any of those women you are pickup the check for for “Personal loan” or Real favor and see how many will come to your aid.

And if you want to call me a coward for not offering to pay the way for a woman that I’m not sleeping with/dating or that is not providing real value in my life fine…I know better than that as I have saved a man from his house burning down, saved a women from a masked rapist in her apartment, and jump out a car where I was safe and then got the crap beat out of me to save a good friend from a gang when all of his other friends just stood there and watched.

What you cowardliness I call self-respect. And have had women take me out to dinner many times, do things for me to show me they value me. I’m a REAL MAN and I expect RESPECT, HONOR and to BE VALUED.

Now when a woman has proven to me that she is of value and worthy of what I have to give I’m very generous as any of my Ex-GF can and will attest.

I can see our thinking is radically different and I have work to do so I’ll end this here with “I agree to disagree”

I think I use my response on my blog, so thanks for the inspiration.

PS: If you are just loaded with money and want to give to every one all of the time. That’s a different story…If I had $100,000,000 I’d be walking down the street giving away  $100 bills randomly daily. But I still would not want to be taken advantage of.”

That’s the end of my response. One thing I would ad is don;t ask women about this or talk to them about it of course they are going to disagree becuase they don’t want to lose their power over men. But the fact is that I myself and a ton of men  that I know who have sex with very attractive women do it without spending hardly any money at times. Because attraction is not based on spending money attraction has been around since before money was invented.

The Christmas season is often a very stressful and sometimes depressing time of  the year for single people both men and women. This is especially true for those without family or that live across the country from them. Which is one reason suicide rates often climb during the holiday season.

In times like this people often add undue stress to their lives be labeling themselves a “Loser” or making statements like “My life sucks”, “I’m always alone”, “No one loves me”, “I have no one to give to or to love” and/or other such negative pity party statements.

This self-defeating behavior will not only perpetuate the situation by creating beliefs that keep you in a limited un-resourceful state of being. But also take you spiraling down father into the pit of despair and negativity.

You need to step back at times like these and realize that no event has any significance other than what we give it ourselves. Look around the world Buddists, Muslims and others that do not Celebrate the Chirstmas holidays are not in a state of depression or feeling unloved because they place no significance on it.

This does not mean that you should not celebrate it, but only that you should stop giving how you celebrate it significance and power over your emotional state. And if possible you can celebrate it even more fully than before just be being in the moment and enjoying what every comes along.

I love Christmas Holidays and it’s always been one of  my favorite times of the year since I was young boy. I love the decorations, the tree, the food, the music, the Christmas movies,and sharing it with someone. It’s one of the times I feel like a kid again.

But this year I got out of a relationship and have been so focused on work and was unable to go see my family. So I ended up alone on Christmas, with no tree, no decorations. Which is not my first choice but I’m not going to let it get me down and those of you that are out there reading this right now should not let it get you down either if you are in a similar situation.

So I want to give you some suggestions on how to beat “The Holiday Blues.”

1. Give to others less fortunate than you. If you are in stable financial position go out and give to the homeless, donate , make someone else ’s Chirstmas brighter and I promise you yours will be too.
2. Along the same lines above, you could play santa and dress up or just get the hat and go buy some toys and take it to orphanage, or a community center. Or you could also get some gift cards and walk up to random people you feel drawn to and give  them a card with a gift card in it and say “Have a Marry Christmas, See there is a Santa Claus!”Single mothers are also a good choice as they often have a hard time making ends meet this time of year and giving gifts to their children.
3. Give to yourself. There is no one more important than you in your life and if you don’t have anyone to give to or anyone that will be giving to you I suggest that you give yourself a gift. Buy something you would really like and make it special by getting something that you would not normally buy for yourself. Treat yourself you deserve it.
4. If you can’t afford financially to give to others or give to yourself. Then give to yourself by doing something you love to do or by learning a new skill or getting back involved in one you have not done in awhile. For me it’s The Guitar. I have had guitars since I was 8 but I really never put in the time to get good at which is really lame since I have 5 of them…lol So I decided that the gift I was going to give myself this year was to get good at the guitar and start playing every day and I have been. My fingers are callousing up nicely, my hands are getting used to the chord changes and I’m learning one of my favorite songs. I’ve been playing all night! and I could  not be Happier, I also bought myself a couple of small gifts.
5. Do what very it takes to keep a positive mental state, if you can still get in the Christmas spirit and give to others & yourself, decorate, watch movies,  eat cookies, drink egg nog etc… Go for it. If that depresses you in any way. Then you can skip Christmas and just do something else you love to.
6. If you have no one to give to at all and you don’t want to give to others think to yourself “look at all of the money I can spend on myself
   and go get yourself something.” It’s ok to be completely selfish and love yourself first. It’s wonderful to give to others but it’s also wonderful to give to yourself and have present to open Christmas Morning. I suggest you even have it wrapped. I buy myself presents every year even if I’m not alone. Because no one else has been there for me through the hard times like I have, no one else had done for me what I have done for myself and I want to thank and honor myself. Because in life the only person you can always count on is yourself. So give yourself some credit and some love and a nice present.
7. Get a pet. Go rescue a Dog or Cat from the Animal shelter and make their life better and give them some love. Pets are wonderful But please make sure that you want to the responsibility for the rest of their lives or that you can find them a good home as they are not holiday toys but are little beings that deserve love and respect just like you do. And if you get a cat dress it up in funny out fits (Because cats love that…lol…Not so much) and put videos of it on You Tube…you could have the next Famous Cat!

Above all be grateful for all you have, your arms, legs, health, that you have shelter and a bed to sleep in , your car…Everything you can think of. Having another person in your life is nothing compared to all that you already have.

The Spirit of Christmas is the Spirit of Love and Giving so give some love to yourself and others and you will fell much better.

I hope you have a Very Merry Christmas and a Wonderful New year!

I just got back from a birthday party at a bar that I was invited to by a new Facebook friend that I made from interacting with an old friend (He and I met through out ex-girlfriends before they were our ex’s) We lost touch and recently reconnected Via Facebook. After commenting on his posts other women started adding me and here I am making new friends and being invited to birthday parties.

Now at the birthday party I did some Social Networking old school style in person face to face and that was invited to a Black Tie New Years party. After that I decided to just chill and two women one after another approached me at the bar. One gave me her card after the conversation ended, the other I left to go to the restroom and did not make contact again with because I was busy networking with the people I was sitting with.

So what is the point of all of this. I want to to see how this all fits together how one event can link to another and open entire new worlds of possibility.

I have been working really hard and basically stopped dating, socializing and just focused on work for the past 3 months. I mean 18 hour days, I also lost friends over this and choose to end some friendships as well that were not being reciprocal and felt one sided to me. I’m not much for having dead weight in my life.

So I knew I need to get out and socialize make new connections and start dating again now that my products are finished and about to launch.

So I put my intention out there, and then took action, followed up and said “Yes” to the opportunity presented to me (if you have not seen the movie “YES MAN” with Jim Carrey you should rent it and watch it.) I said yes to one invitation, which equaled several new contacts/friends, an invite to another party for New Years, a phone number from a woman that initiated contact with me and who knows how many more connections I’ll make from this one event that all came from an invite I got on Facebook. Another time I met smoking hot girl that I dated for awhile that I met out at a club from another birthday party I was invited to on Myspace.

Tonight I also said “Have a nice life to two girls” I previously met on Myspace, because when there is a disconnect there is no reason to hold on to something that’s not working out or is too difficult or in the case of one of them she was playing games. The other I screwed up but learned a valuable lesson in the process.

SIDE NOTE: Yes that’s right I said I screwed up. I’m not perfect and I still make mistakes and anyone that claims they are is a lair or trying to con you in some way. In this case my ego got in the way and I was putting obstacles in my own path…But I learned and plan I doing a issue in my new Special Subjects Multimedia Newsletter on “Cock Blocking Yourself /Self-Sabotage” so others can learn from my mistake and what I learned.

So I just said bye to one and deleted both them from my phone. Something a lot of men do is they keep trying to make it work even when the signs are clear you should just move on. Don’t live in scarcity live in a state of abundance knowing that you are always attracting more and better into your life.

I learned a lesson and then I let go of it and moved on and look women started approaching me and I got invited to another place where there are even more possibilities. It’s a chain-reaction from one action that multiplies your possibilities.

So get out there and take action, make new friends both male and female online and offline. I will tell you my male friends have hooked me up 100 times more than any of my female friends so make male friends and don’t cock block or go after their girls that comes from a scarcity mentality. When you live in abundance you know there is enough for every one.

Well that’s all for now!

I just finished a 71 minute multimedia video newsletter on “Dating During The Holidays” but unfortunately due to the long process of setting up my new shopping cart, digital rights management and the product itself it’s too late to sell it.

So I’m giving it a way free to those that sign up for my new Special Subjects MultiMedia Newsletter that I’m going to launch in the next 60 days. So I guess you could call the a soft or pre-launch. Basically your get the first issue free and you have 7 days to decided if you want to stay subscribed.

But the good part for you is that 90% of the stuff I talk about works ALL YEAR LONG it just all works even better this time of year. Anyway here just a small part of what in side “Dating During The Holidays”…

• The Best Places to Meet Women All Year Long!
• How to meet a dozen single women in an hour!
• How to Pickup Women in Malls Shopping and Working
• The Direct Approach Vs. The Conversational Approach
• How to Get Her Phone Number ( a method I use that works 98% of the time.)
• How to Get Women to Compete Over You
• Dating Multiple Women During The Holidays.
• When To and NOT to Buy Her a Present!
• New Years With and Without a Date!
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This below is a response to this article: http://hplusmagazine.com/articles/robotics/sexbots-will-give-us-longevity-orgasm

Yes this is the future…and then we will all be put of jobs (seduction & dating coaches), well not me as I also do other things (Any one want to buy VirtualLovePartner.com or VirtualLoveRobot.com, yes I’m a domainer also)

But there will be no need for the pickup industry. And as one of the people that commented on the article at the link above said many men will opt for this over dealing with the B.S. women put them through (that’s my own paraphrase, a bit harsher and to the point, but that’s the gist of it.)

Women will fight this because they will lose mush of their power. The battle of the sexes will be over and we will have won or maybe we just won’t give a damn and thanks to the Nerd and Geeks with the huge IQ’s that women have shunned for years not knowing that those very actions would be their very own undoing.

It will be a time of true equality…where both sexes will have to work just as hard, and one can no longer live off the other in a parasitic fashion as is the case in many situations. It will be the end of the Golddigger, The Tease and the “I want a ring as big as you last 3 months paycheck!” women.

Why when a man can buy a 3 bots for the same price as the ring who will never age, never have saggy breasts, love anal and I am sure will be built to interface with other bots for the 2 and 3 girl action, never say no,  feel better than a real women ever could and play all of your mp3 in Surround sound while your banger her, uh it I mean! You know at some point they will bring you beer and make you a sandwich toom if they also do dishes and laundry count me in!

It will be the end of the pickup industry as men that are naturals will still get women easily and men that are not will often opt for the bots. Why take $2997 boot camp when you can buy a bot. Men will start having trophy bots instead of trophy wives and just like men like to work on and collect cars and other men like to trick out their PC and MOD it so will be true of your Sex Bots. There might even be bot porn! In fact I’m sure of it if there Anime Hentai there will be bot porn. With link on the screen that says you can buy this bot for only $2997 click her to buy now! You’ll be able to get you very own copy of your favorite porn star or a bot with the dimensions of life size Barbie doll.

I can just hear it now “Dude I just installed a new that high pressure, spinning, oscillating vagina in C.H.E.R.R.Y. it’s fucking amazing! I can’t believe the shit my dad had to go through to get some pussy!”

It will also curb unwanted pregnancy, STD’s will virtually disappear, keep the world from being over populated, and help the Gene pool through more selective breeding.

Now women will attack this viciously because it’s a threat to their way of life and power.  They will not longer be able to rely on their natural built in self-preservation system P.U.S.S.Y. (Protection Under Serious Situations Year-Round) for the aquasition of money and lifestyle alone.

I can just here it now “No REAL man would have sex with a bot”.  Just like no real man would ever let a women pay for her dinner or a drink…etc…etc…etc…Pull my other leg it play jingle bells.

So are all of those women with vibrators and dildos not REAL women?

Some women will buy bots also but the demand just will not be there so the technology will lag because…

1) Attractive women can get sex any time they want unlike most men.

2) The Myth in the seduction community that women are more sexual than men or want it as much is just that a myth. Men buy most of the porn, men go to sex workers and men spend money perusing women. And men have more sexual thoughts on a more frequent basis than women.

 3) Women seek sex partners for emotional reasons more than sexual pleasure and also for financial support. And a bots not going to pay their bills.

 Thus there will be a renewed interest in cooking, charm school and all other areas that women will have left to attract a man. They might even start becoming the persurers in the dating world. Becuase they’ll need us alot more than we will need them.

Welcome to the  new Era of TRUE EQUALITY that is upon us.

My only concern is… Attractive women are often attracted to Alpha Douchbags with the I.Q. of an Apple think “Jersey Shore” and with the Geniuses all boinking their bots… we may breed into a race of beautiful morons that are really good foro nothing. Very similar to parts of the population in some of the cities I have lived in.

But in the mean time we still have to meet REAL women and be Alpha Males, and some men will still find that one women in 100 or 1000 who is what they are looking for so when that happens…You will see a lot of bots on ebay…lol

As for men I think I’ll still prefer the real thing but I do see this as a viable option for alot of men at least until they find a good woman.

I was reading a woman’s post on face book and decided I’d answer it here.

She said “I think people who are in relationships and who engage in things like cyber sex with a stranger or outright cheating are usually insecure. In my experience a person who cheats usually does it out of fear and insecurity and not out of desire. We are all human, and even the most monogamous couples will find themselves attracted to other people, but only the weak and insecure feel the need to engage.”

From a woman’s point of view maybe it is why they cheat…

But in my opinion and from talking to many, many other men it has nothing to do with insecurity at least on the man’s side of things.

It has to do with the FACT that our DNA is programmed for us to seek out sexual partners. Every straight man has it. (I’m not gay so I have no point of reference, I wonder also since gay men don’t have sex for procreation if that has an effect?)

This desire for “New Pussy” or a “New Partner” to be a bit more PC can diminish if you are with a woman that is 99%-100% what you want but the truth is most people settle especially most men that did not have many options in the first place. But even then after a time the sex often get’s old and you lose your desire EVEN when you still love the women 100% with all of your heart and would do anything for her.

What women don’t understand is that men often cheat not to destroy a relationship but to save it and them selves becuase they feel like they are dying inside. Because their sex drive dies from monogamy, then they lose interest in having sex with their partner then she feel neglected (and maybe this is where the insecurity comes in that she was speaking of) and she goes out and cheats becuase someone else gave her the attention she needed and she blames the guy saying he didn’t keep up his end of the deal.

You see it all of the time 40% of marriages are sexless and over 60% of marriages end in divorce.  It gets to the point where you think I have to either end this or cheat. Some cheat some end it. Then after they end it they want it back. Why becuase their primal need encoded in their DNA been filled.

Because what they really needed was the release like letting off a steam pressure valve.

The part women don’t understand is that often if the man is still attracted to his wife/GF the being with another woman energizes him sexually and re-awakens his sex drive for his partner once again.

Women in other parts of the world understand this and deal with it. Women in the U.S. want ownership of the man, and to neuter him like a cat. Of course then he is no longer the same man they were attracted to, he just sit around get’s lazy and is shadow of his former self.

You also look at LTR couples. The 100% faithful men after years are usually fat lazy and miserable and their wives hold them in low regard. Then look at the men that are suspect of cheating they usually are in good shape and have wives that adore them and try to keep their attention.

What are the first signs that a man is cheating? New clothes, going to the gym more often, taking better care of himself. Interesting sounds like a new zest for life hmmm.

Women can argue all they want but history proves my point and so do the statistics and since they are not in a man’s body that have no point of reference. There are very few monogamous animals namely Doves and Wolves.
(http://news.softpedia.com/news/Monogamy-is-an-Oddity-42006.shtml)

BTW attractive women often cheat more then men anyway as it’s so much easier for them and they are much better liars. At least that women have told me.

No point complaining about it ladies. We as men have to deal with you all being status seeking whores and do not mean that in a derogatory manner. It’s just another fact, but to put it nicer women are all sexually attracted to and willing to put out for highest status males, regardless of their current relationship status. (In all fairness that is very broad generalization and while it tends to be accurate there is a small percentage of women that don’t fit that description that are actually an aberration to the normal female pattern that last woman I dated was one of those women, she actually resisted very high status men out of fear of being dependent on them, but she is not typical in way shape or from.)

We have the mass procreation gene and you have the partner trade up gene. So all we can do is just deal with it and stop stressing about it and appreciate each other for the thing we like.

And and this is from a man that has never cheated, but has also not been in fully committed relationship in 9 years. I let my partners know where that stand from the start. But was recently told by a woman I should just shut up and so what I want like everyone else so I guess being honest is not appreciated.

I’m willing to try the monogamy thing with the right woman again someday, if we can be both totally open and honest and express how we really feel instead of just telling each other what we want to hear.  But it seems to me most women don’t want the truth they only want to hear what they want to hear even if it is a lie.  Sorry ladies you can’t have it both ways, you either want honesty and communication or you want to hear the fairy tale.

Anyway just my take on things. Oh yeah to me the real insecurity is when you feel like you need to control or own your partner becuase some how that will a make you happy.

So I finally finish my book and the workbook is 90% done and I’m about to launch them as a new online dating home study course. So I call up Jackie and say let go hang out and shoot some video and I’m in the middle of my video and out of no where she flashes her tits!!! I totally lose my concentration as if driving stick, talking on camera weren’t enough with out having a nice big pair of boobs flashed in front of me. It was funny as hell I almost could not pull my self together from laughing. I had to edit out a part of it, you’ll see the cut. (Maybe I’ll do a blooper reel sometime)

This going blank is AKA known as an attraction trance. It’s the power attractive women have over men (and us of over them, but usually they respond by laughing) And it’s one reason men often can’t think of what to say when they see an attractive woman. It’s not fear in fact it feels good, and is fun in situations like in this video. But in approaching a new woman you need to be able to control it. In this situation she gave me a one-two punch, the flash followed by kissing me. So I was basically screwed…lol The positive side is that you can use this blank mind to clear out any fears and go primal and just act. I have done that before and because you are coming from such a pure centered place the women just respond.

WARNING: There maybe spelling or grammatical errors on this page if you are offended by such abuses of the English language…Don’t Read It! (Kiss My Ass Instead!)

I just received an email from some guy telling me that I need to go to school before I call myself a writer. I am the first to admit that I am not that great at spelling or grammar, but rather than to let that hold me back in life I chose not to.  Because I see the bigger picture. If you really think that stuff matters and that it determines how far you will go in life. Just look at our last president…lol He could barely in front on an audience speak! (But he still was better at public speaking than most of the people that criticize him, public speaking is one of the biggest fears of most people)

So I had a few choices on how to deal with this email I received:

1. I could just delete it becuase really who cares. I only care about the content and that my customers are happy and since I have not released my product yet for this site, he is bitching & whining about stuff that I am giving away for free. Some people might say “he’s an ungrateful prick” and that you don’t look a gift horse in the mouth. (That expression comes from the fact that when you buy a horse you should always check their mouth and teeth and dental health, but if someone is giving you a horse it’s rude)
2. I could have used a sarcastic retort approach and emailed back something like…”You are obviously an anal retentive moron, that’s not getting laid enough (and this kind of behavior is why becuase no woman wants some whiny nitpicker around her, picking her apart), I still get laid more and make more money than you with my bad grammar & spelling and always will” But really that ’s not helping anyone.
3. I could have written an email back to him attempting to point out his short sided, narrow minded, superficial perception stemming from the beliefs “That good grammar is a mark of intelligence” and that “You must have perfect grammar and spelling to be a writer” Neither of which I subscribe to.
4. I chose option number 4 to take the letter I did write him and share it with the world so that all that read it can learn from both my mistakes of not using perfect grammar & spelling (Yes I would serve myself and my readers better to improve my grammar I completely admit that) and his mistake of not valuing content over syntax. So here is my reply below.

“I was going to just delete this email but what would you learn from that?

I’m a writer only as far as it’s a means to convey what I have to say. Writers write. Many writers don’t even do that becuase they have writers block. And if you have ever studied writing self-editing in your head is one of the causes of writers block. I can always hire an analytical (anal retentive) person like yourself to clean up my work.

And most writers have editors, and proof readers that clean up their work. I know I bought an ebook from a man who’s books sold $30,000,000 it was filled with errors becuase he did not take the time to have it edited. I expect ed more from him as he is a professional writer published by very large publishing houses but what I learned was it was the publishing house that cleans up his work, not him, and it made him no less a writer. Publishing houses are filled with editor and proof readers making a fraction per year of the big authors who’s work they are cleaning up and correcting. Some of the biggest authors around dictate these days and let others put it together.

My last books sold over 15,000 copies and made me hundreds of thousands of dollars (because I self publish) and are filled with errors. The important part though is that while I got a hand full of people like yourself complaining, I have thousands of satisfied customers testimonials of changed lives.

But according to you I should fold up shop becuase I grammar and spelling is not up to your expectations. I think value the opinion of my happy customers and the readers that thank me for what I do. Thank you.

However because I respect my customers I do the best to clean them up now without changing my conversation writing style. So I do have my new books lightly edited and proofread as I strive to continually improve my products and deliver the best products I can. My emails I do not have edited by someone else. I probably should.

I really don’t want customers like you that complain and whine about little things and really just don’t get the big picture. Clearly if you take the time to email me and attack me Instead of seeing value in the information I am giving for FREE! (I doubt you even watched the money video, that I have gotten so much positive feed back on)

You remind me of those people that write bad reviews about a video that is filled with great content, but the lighting was not all that great, and the titles were not flashy.

You have some issues you need to address. You are of the You tube/forum  mentallity of “let’s rip on everyone and point out all flaws we possibly can.” So we can feel better about out own lives. If you want to address someones flaws address your own, you can’t change me but maybe you can improve yourself, or learn from  my mistakes.

I prefer audio and video. At the end of the day all that matter to me is the results the information brings the people and that my customers are happy and since you are not a customer your opinion don’t not matter.

For every one person like you I get 10 thanking me for my efforts and information and how it has changed their lives. The fact that I can do what I have done and not have perfect grammar only inspires people that they can become successful, they can achieve their dreams with out a college degree, without being perfect, without the approval of people like yourself. I know many a miserable person with an advanced degree and a ton of successful people that are happy that were high school or college dropouts. Education is important, but it’s not what makes you great, successful or gets you laid.

A few dropouts. Tony Robbins, Frank Kern, Bill Gates (Dropped out of Harvard), Mike Dell, and the list goes on and on!

Einstein was notriously bad a math and often had other people do his math for him. He imgaination and knowledge was great.

Steven Hawkings another one of the greatest minds of our time is disabled, he writes one letter at a time, he has others edit and proofread no doubt. Does that make him less of an author or a great man.

NEVER judge a person only on syntax but rather on content and NEVER let some jackass critic tell you are not good enough to do something! If the critics could do better they would be doing it not criticizing others for doing it.

I have removed you from my email list and blocked you from re-subscribing.

PS: I hope your little attack made you feel better about yourself, your life and your ability to use perfect grammar. BTW since this is a dating newsletter I should mention that, perfect grammar is often a detriment to getting laid. We are in a time that people speak with abbreviation and acronym and slang. Such as …WTF, LOL, BRB, etc…” I have never heard a woman say “Wow he can spell and had prefect grammar I want to have sex with him!”

Now I do want to say to all of the readers of this blog…

1. That while I often forget to proof read my email. You should always proofread you emails before you send them to a woman you are trying to meet online. You don’t want her to think you are ignorant or lazy, just as this reader judged me.
2. Match her style of writing. If she uses perfect grammar, use it when you write to her. If she uses casual writing or net speak or slang use it also. That will help to establish rapport!

I know this is off topic but I just have to say something in light of all recent celebrity drug deaths. Anna Nicole Smith (not so recent), Heath Ledger, Michael Jackson, Billy Mays and Today DJ AM.

I made a choice very early in life to avoid drugs because as I see it drug use leads to one of four places and none of them are anywhere I want to be…

1. Broke and Homeless
2. Jail
3. Rehab
4. Dead

Anthony Robbins one of the best motivational strategists alive says people do drugs because they associate more pleasure than pain to them. I totally agree because look at the 4 associations I have to drugs above.

I live in Vegas a city where people come to party and often die from over doses while visiting. And every few months or so a popular local in the strip scene dies of an over does. Why does this happen?

It happens because people are trying to change their state of mind, you can call it an escape if you want but what really is going on is that they are not happy and they are looking to change their state of mind.

There is nothing wrong with changing your state of mind. The problem is when you have to look outside of yourself to do that you become dependent on whatever it is you are using to change your state of mind. This leads to an addiction to whatever it is that you are using to change your state of mind, be it food, sex, a person, and object, or a dangerous substance.

In the case of food this can cause a person to gain weight, to a person it can cause co-dependence and obsession and this is how stalkers are made. When it’s an object it often takes the form of object referral meaning that your self-worth and positive feelings come from the object. Sometimes it even becomes your identity. i.e. I’m the guy with the Corvette, Big House, Lots of Money, Hot Girlfriend (the second way it can be a person is partner referral, you get your validation or identity from your mate, also unhealthy)

With drugs it’s even worse because the drug is destroying your health, and even has the potential to end your life right then and there in many cases. In the case of E or Ecstasy it actually reduces and affects your natural ability to be happy when not on the drug.

In all of the cases above really the same problem exist you are looking out side of yourself for your happiness. What most people don’t realize is that we have the power to choose our states of mind. Happiness is a choice. Now at first this can be difficult because just like drugs you can actually get addicted to negative emotions and you have to break that addiction.

I myself have had a problem with negativity (some might even call it depression) most of my life. And it has held me back from success in many areas of my life or maybe I should say slowed my path to success.

But after many years I have learned how to control my emotions, thoughts and thinking processes. And I can now choose to be happy and choose to be in a powerful state of mind almost totally autonomously. I still look outside of myself once in awhile but when I do I choose things that are going to be good for me or at the very worst lesser evils.

I’d like to share with you now what I have learned over the course of my life that has helped me to be a much more positive, happy and healthy person.

1. Sleep. I personally get very negative if I do not get enough sleep. It effects my thinking all day long. Try to get 8 hours or what ever you need to feel mentally fresh. When I can’t I take a nap later to mentally and physically refresh myself.

2. Food. I must eat every few hours to keep my energy level high and blood sugar regulated. Your brain function is greatly affected by your blood sugar level. Also avoid simple sugars that lift you and the crash you. Fresh live whole foods are the best for this. I now start my day very often with a vegetable smoothie filled with natural live enzymes. You also must get enough protein or it will affect your moods.

3. Water. You must stay hydrated as you are 70% water and your brain is closer to 85%. Often depression, lack of energy and headaches are a sign of dehydration. Drink half of your body weight in ounces every day of fresh clean water. That means a 180lbs man would need to drink 90 ounces of water. Structured and alkaline waters are the best and you can really feel the difference.

4. Deep diaphragmic breathing for ten minutes will do amazing things for your mental state. You will actually get buzzed and feel high (well I’ve never actually been high on drugs, but I’m guessing that’s what it feels like). What you are doing is oxygenating you body. And every function in your body is dependent on oxygen.

5. Meditation/Self-hypnosis. Going into Alpha or Theta brainwave state, has a very powerful centering and grounding effect and leave you very clear minded. I try to do this at least once a day.

6. Exercise releases endorphins which are a natural high. You also look better naked…lol I do this 1-5 times a week. Depending on what I’m trying to accomplish.

7. Raw Cacao. This is the raw and natural state of chocolate and has a ton of anti-oxidants and is a natural anti-depressant. I used to reach for Ben & Jerry’s Phish Food when I could not shake a negative mood. Now I make healthy low-glycemic treats that use Raw Cacao and other natural ingredients. But I still say Ben & Jerry’s is better than a line of Cocaine or some E but I think it’s just as addictive! ;o)

8. Now in addition to that… Focus your attention on what you want in your life and things that make you feel good and that you are passionate about.  NOT on negative depressing things. I often watch certain movies just to change my mental state to empower me. I NEVER WATCH THE NEWS! (ok when Michael Jackson died I did for a couple of hours but that only two hours in the last 5 years) I refuse to fill my head with that crap they are shoveling out. Instead I choose to watch shows, DVD’s and movies that empower me. I watch movies that show people succeeding, that are funny, that show people overcoming obstacles, and achieving their dreams. I have watched “The Secret” over 100 times easy! I watch the science channel so I can learn and when the damn drug commercials come on I mute it or change the channel I have no need to be programmed with “A need for a drug” as they describe the symptoms to you it’s actually a form of hypnosis.

9. I listen to positive music I won’t listen to depressing music, or negative lyrics (As mush as I love AC/DC and actually love the music to “Highway To Hell” I won’t listen to it if I have a choice… Hell is not a destination I choose to visit, whether fictional or circumstantial Hell.)  Often people do that and sing them over and over again and feel depressed while doing so. Have you ever heard of “Affirmations” well when you do that your doing negative “Affirmations”. Then people want to know why the teen suicide rate is so high when they sit around listening to broken hearted emo songs. Country music listeners used to have the highest suicide rate many years ago. Well look back at all of the negative country music lyrics in the past. You don’t think it has an effect but it does over time. And I’m not talking about subliminal messages or anything like that. Your mind tends to move in the direction that you send it. If you start thinking depressing thoughts you’ll think more of them and soon you are depressed. If you think about making a million dollars you start thinking of more ways to do it and pretty soon you are seeing opportunities.

10. Spend some time everyday being grateful and thankful for everything you have in your life that you enjoy. It’s very hard to be depressed when you are grateful or in a state of gratitude. Look at these celebrities that all over dosed they had achieved their dreams. Yet were miserable. Because they got caught up in the everyday bullshit. I’ll tell you what. Take them out of their lifestyle and make them take the bus to work at wal-mart or a video store for a month and they would come back with a new appreciation for their life. Also you must set new goals, look for new adventures once you make it! You don’t say “now what?” You say “Now I’m going to do this!” or “My Next Adventure will be…”

Well that’s all for now I have to get back to work on my new product I’m almost finished with. The above has worked for me I hope it’s of value to you also.

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Nico