Nico’s Online Dating, Pickup & Seduction Blog.

I know this is off topic but I just have to say something in light of all recent celebrity drug deaths. Anna Nicole Smith (not so recent), Heath Ledger, Michael Jackson, Billy Mays and Today DJ AM.

I made a choice very early in life to avoid drugs because as I see it drug use leads to one of four places and none of them are anywhere I want to be…

1. Broke and Homeless
2. Jail
3. Rehab
4. Dead

Anthony Robbins one of the best motivational strategists alive says people do drugs because they associate more pleasure than pain to them. I totally agree because look at the 4 associations I have to drugs above.

I live in Vegas a city where people come to party and often die from over doses while visiting. And every few months or so a popular local in the strip scene dies of an over does. Why does this happen?

It happens because people are trying to change their state of mind, you can call it an escape if you want but what really is going on is that they are not happy and they are looking to change their state of mind.

There is nothing wrong with changing your state of mind. The problem is when you have to look outside of yourself to do that you become dependent on whatever it is you are using to change your state of mind. This leads to an addiction to whatever it is that you are using to change your state of mind, be it food, sex, a person, and object, or a dangerous substance.

In the case of food this can cause a person to gain weight, to a person it can cause co-dependence and obsession and this is how stalkers are made. When it’s an object it often takes the form of object referral meaning that your self-worth and positive feelings come from the object. Sometimes it even becomes your identity. i.e. I’m the guy with the Corvette, Big House, Lots of Money, Hot Girlfriend (the second way it can be a person is partner referral, you get your validation or identity from your mate, also unhealthy)

With drugs it’s even worse because the drug is destroying your health, and even has the potential to end your life right then and there in many cases. In the case of E or Ecstasy it actually reduces and affects your natural ability to be happy when not on the drug.

In all of the cases above really the same problem exist you are looking out side of yourself for your happiness. What most people don’t realize is that we have the power to choose our states of mind. Happiness is a choice. Now at first this can be difficult because just like drugs you can actually get addicted to negative emotions and you have to break that addiction.

I myself have had a problem with negativity (some might even call it depression) most of my life. And it has held me back from success in many areas of my life or maybe I should say slowed my path to success.

But after many years I have learned how to control my emotions, thoughts and thinking processes. And I can now choose to be happy and choose to be in a powerful state of mind almost totally autonomously. I still look outside of myself once in awhile but when I do I choose things that are going to be good for me or at the very worst lesser evils.

I’d like to share with you now what I have learned over the course of my life that has helped me to be a much more positive, happy and healthy person.

1. Sleep. I personally get very negative if I do not get enough sleep. It effects my thinking all day long. Try to get 8 hours or what ever you need to feel mentally fresh. When I can’t I take a nap later to mentally and physically refresh myself.

2. Food. I must eat every few hours to keep my energy level high and blood sugar regulated. Your brain function is greatly affected by your blood sugar level. Also avoid simple sugars that lift you and the crash you. Fresh live whole foods are the best for this. I now start my day very often with a vegetable smoothie filled with natural live enzymes. You also must get enough protein or it will affect your moods.

3. Water. You must stay hydrated as you are 70% water and your brain is closer to 85%. Often depression, lack of energy and headaches are a sign of dehydration. Drink half of your body weight in ounces every day of fresh clean water. That means a 180lbs man would need to drink 90 ounces of water. Structured and alkaline waters are the best and you can really feel the difference.

4. Deep diaphragmic breathing for ten minutes will do amazing things for your mental state. You will actually get buzzed and feel high (well I’ve never actually been high on drugs, but I’m guessing that’s what it feels like). What you are doing is oxygenating you body. And every function in your body is dependent on oxygen.

5. Meditation/Self-hypnosis. Going into Alpha or Theta brainwave state, has a very powerful centering and grounding effect and leave you very clear minded. I try to do this at least once a day.

6. Exercise releases endorphins which are a natural high. You also look better naked…lol I do this 1-5 times a week. Depending on what I’m trying to accomplish.

7. Raw Cacao. This is the raw and natural state of chocolate and has a ton of anti-oxidants and is a natural anti-depressant. I used to reach for Ben & Jerry’s Phish Food when I could not shake a negative mood. Now I make healthy low-glycemic treats that use Raw Cacao and other natural ingredients. But I still say Ben & Jerry’s is better than a line of Cocaine or some E but I think it’s just as addictive! ;o)

8. Now in addition to that… Focus your attention on what you want in your life and things that make you feel good and that you are passionate about.  NOT on negative depressing things. I often watch certain movies just to change my mental state to empower me. I NEVER WATCH THE NEWS! (ok when Michael Jackson died I did for a couple of hours but that only two hours in the last 5 years) I refuse to fill my head with that crap they are shoveling out. Instead I choose to watch shows, DVD’s and movies that empower me. I watch movies that show people succeeding, that are funny, that show people overcoming obstacles, and achieving their dreams. I have watched “The Secret” over 100 times easy! I watch the science channel so I can learn and when the damn drug commercials come on I mute it or change the channel I have no need to be programmed with “A need for a drug” as they describe the symptoms to you it’s actually a form of hypnosis.

9. I listen to positive music I won’t listen to depressing music, or negative lyrics (As mush as I love AC/DC and actually love the music to “Highway To Hell” I won’t listen to it if I have a choice… Hell is not a destination I choose to visit, whether fictional or circumstantial Hell.)  Often people do that and sing them over and over again and feel depressed while doing so. Have you ever heard of “Affirmations” well when you do that your doing negative “Affirmations”. Then people want to know why the teen suicide rate is so high when they sit around listening to broken hearted emo songs. Country music listeners used to have the highest suicide rate many years ago. Well look back at all of the negative country music lyrics in the past. You don’t think it has an effect but it does over time. And I’m not talking about subliminal messages or anything like that. Your mind tends to move in the direction that you send it. If you start thinking depressing thoughts you’ll think more of them and soon you are depressed. If you think about making a million dollars you start thinking of more ways to do it and pretty soon you are seeing opportunities.

10. Spend some time everyday being grateful and thankful for everything you have in your life that you enjoy. It’s very hard to be depressed when you are grateful or in a state of gratitude. Look at these celebrities that all over dosed they had achieved their dreams. Yet were miserable. Because they got caught up in the everyday bullshit. I’ll tell you what. Take them out of their lifestyle and make them take the bus to work at wal-mart or a video store for a month and they would come back with a new appreciation for their life. Also you must set new goals, look for new adventures once you make it! You don’t say “now what?” You say “Now I’m going to do this!” or “My Next Adventure will be…”

Well that’s all for now I have to get back to work on my new product I’m almost finished with. The above has worked for me I hope it’s of value to you also.

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So make your summer one to remember and the rest of your life filled with pleasure for you and your partner.

Nico

I have just finished putting together the New Pickup Women Online Starter Kit that I am now giving away FREE to the subscribers of my newsletter. It’s packed with a ton of information on online dating and how to meet women online. From the very basics to the most common mistakes men make and 5 techniques I used personally for “First Contact” with women online.

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Martin Wrote:

“I read your free manual and found some useful tips that hopefully will carry fruit soon. I must tell you I found a page with examples of first contact suggestions which I used with only minimal adjustments. My replies almost doubled which is both interesting and disappointing. Are women really this simple, or is it only about standing out from the crowd long enough to get a foot in the door?”

Hi Martin,

Dating and women are very simple we tend to just get in our own way most of the time. As many successful men know making a woman laugh is one of the most powerful tools in the dating game for men. If you are confident and funny. You get the girl most of the time. This an over simplification but for the most part true.

As far as using the template emails you found online.

The reason those may have worked is they show creativity, a lack of desperation and humor, which is the opposite of what most men on most sites are doing. I personally feel they are a bit too cheesy and they  will not work on all sites, or on all women, especially on social networking sites.

However if the they are getting you more responses, good for you! And yes women and the attraction process are really that simple to a point as far as getting her attention. Unfortunately there are a ton of things you can do from that point that will kill the deal as many men have discovered.

The problem with using ANYONE ELSE’S EMAILS. Is while is may get your foot in the door, the door will most likely get slammed on your foot and in your face when you meet in person. This is when you find out that she is NOT as simple as you thought and her B.S. detector tells her something is off. That you don’t quite match up to your email.

Because…

1. Yes the email may have worked but what about the second email, and the third, who is going to write those for you?
2. It’s not congruent with who you are in person.
3. When you meet in person she is going to expect to see the same level of humor, and creativity, If you don’t show it, your toast!
4. It won’t be long before men all of the world are using those very same emails and they get busted instantly.

That’s just my take on using other people emails, which is why I teach men how to write their own emails that work. You also have to find a balance that matches your style, personality and profile. I personally could not use a cheesy email. I have a friend that could as he is a cheesy person…lol

There are 3 kinds of men out there:

1. Those that want the quick fix i.e. a pick up line, a email template, magic powers of hypnosis (which is anything but quick to learn), someone to do all of the work for them.
2. Those that are actually successful with women. The funny part is for many of the successful men it’s really a totally effortless process. It’s just part of who the are. These are the naturals.
3. Those men that have studied and improved themselves but have gotten past relying on the gimmicks, canned openers and pickup techniques and found out what they really needed and made it part of them or should I say discovered it was part if them all along and they became naturals.

All of what I teach is aimed at helping men becoming a natural both on and offline.

I hope this helps and as always you success is my goal.

Nico

In my opinion and from what I have seen women in general give men that worst dating advice.

Of the female authors that teach men that I have seen and they all give terrible advice.  Some do better than others but still leave out the most important aspects of attraction. The reason is the same
reason almost all women give bad advice to men regarding dating and it practically useless unless the man learns how to filter though it and absorb what is useful.

You’re thinking right now that makes no sense who would know more about what a woman wants than a woman. The problems is what a  woman wants and what she RESPONDS TO are usually to entirely different things (welcome to natures cruel joke on us) and she is not attracted by what she wants or all women would be dating nice guys that treat them well instead of jerks that treat them like crap.

The process of attraction is largely an unconscious process for most women, so they don’t even know what is causing the attraction (unless they have spent some time really investigating it in their mind) It just happens.

Most often most women choose the later of the two. For many reasons I won’t go into now. Which is also why I want to do a product for women that will tell them the truth and what they need to hear about men and why they also choose the wrong men and how to break that cycle.

For men it is a similar process but we are attracted more by what we see and by what she looks like than qualities so when we see a women we find attractive it is also somewhat unconscious but because it’s largely visible we can identify it easily by looking at the physical similarities between the women we are attracted to.

For example let’s see… the last 5 women I thought were attractive had, nice full lips, long dark or blonde hair and big breasts with a tan and nice round ass. So you can see what I am attracted to.  But with women it’s often qualities a man possesses that she is attracted to so it’s not as easy to tell just by looking at the men.

But back to women giving advice. Most of the time they tell me what they want in a man, which is not what attracts women, or creates attraction. If you are a woman think back at what you want in a man and then think about all of the guys you’ve dated. How many match that, then think about all of the nice guys that actually treated you will be just did not turn you on, or you just weren’t that into them.

They never even got a chance. If you are a man reading this just observe the women you know the women you have desired and look at who they have dated and, how they have been treated, and how it was different from what they said they wanted, yet they kept running back to him.  While they cried on your shoulder.

How ever there is some advice women give that is very good such as fashion, makeovers, often sexual advice about how to please a women is good, but I have found for the most part dating advice that women give does not work. I teach men that “What a woman wants and what she responds to are usually two entirely different things” which is the reason why most men are confused and don’t understand why when they do what she says she wants she still is not attracted to him.

I don’t know if you have read many romance novels but the story’s are not about nice men treating women with love and respect. They are about bad boys that are often mean, untamed, makes her cry and is very sexual and she has to win him over.  But it’s not politically correct for woman to say I want a bad boy that will treat me like dirt, put me on a emotional roller coaster,  give me the challenge to win his heart, and find his good side and oh yeah and I want to him to throw me on the bed dominate me and F#$% my brains out like he just got out of jail also!

So they give crappy politically correct treat women with respect, buy her flowers, tell her she pretty, and make her feel loved B.S. advice. That actually turns the woman off if she has not earned that treatment
and then she goes out looking for the bad boy again. Only after having her heart broken and usually in her late 30’s does she start to give nice guys a chance, generally becuase the bad boy are not interested in her any more and she has gained a few pounds. What a reward for being a nice guy. )

I also don’t believe any woman is going to tell men how to get the upper hand in a relationship or over a woman (even though unconsciously they crave the man to be dominant.) They know they have most men brainwashed and controlled and I don’t think they want to lose the power in the dating arena. Because as it stands now, we have to do all of the work, deal with the rejection, pay for the dates and play by their rules and time table…unless we choose to take the red pill and wake up from the Matrix of Bullshit! (Do you want to take the red pill I have a few left!)

Men on the other hand are very simple in their motivations and desires when it comes to women. Feed us, boost our ego and have sex with us, and keep yourself looking good and were pretty much happy.

I’m about to do an interview with very beautiful woman that is a good friend of mine and I sent out an email to my list asking “What question would you like to ask a beautiful woman?”

One of the replies I received back was actually from a woman stating…

“what makes you think that beautiful women think differently?”

So I thought I’d answer that here on my blog for all to see and to get some insight on why beautiful women think differently.

“Hi Elaine,

Thank you for your question…

Being that I know, have known and dated a number of beautiful women and I also have friends that are not as beautiful I know that beautiful women think differently becuase their reality is different from average looking women.

People treat the special based solely on their looks. They get into clubs faster often with no wait at all. They get hired as bartenders with almost no experience when a qualified man has to bar back for up to 2 years first and they get cut last when layoffs come around (at least in Vegas).

NOTE: I don’t want to make this about the special treatment women get over men that’s a whole other story and all women and men should read The Myth of Male Power. Women will see what it’s like to be a man and men will wake up from the lie we have been sold.

If you have ever seen the shows on TV where they take average women and beautiful women and pretend to drop their groceries or their car breaks down. You see how every man comes to the beautiful woman’s rescue yet not the other woman.

The truth is most of them are not even deserving of it and are selfish, demanding, flaky and have nothing else to offer but their looks.  At least in my experience and the experience almost everyman I have talked to. But just the same they are given more opportunities than the average man or women.

Most men are intimidated by beautiful women and are afraid of them especially nice guys. Which why very attractive women often end up with total assholes as boyfriends as they are usually the only men that have the balls to approach and talk to them and not kiss their ass like everyone else.

Many skate through life by relying on their looks alone and have spent little if any time to develop themselves spiritually (and I’m not talking about religion) or develop their personality and to many a book is to them like cryptonite is to superman.  One reason is that they are generally bombarded with social offers from age 16 on continuously and are almost never single for any length of time.

They just never needed to have anything but looks so they never bothered. I mean I’m sure I would not have spent nearly as much time developing myself personally if since the age of 16 I was constantly asked out and offered sex by almost every attractive woman I met. How would I have had the time and why would I care I’d be having so much fun. But I also would not be the well rounded intelligent person I was today, so there is the downside. In fairness there are tons of good looking shallow men as well, but they can’t get away with it like women can. Men are required to have a brain or both men and women look down on them.

A lot of women are jealous of beautiful women as well and often trying to compete with them. So you see their  reality is NOT one of the average women and when your reality is that different your thinking MUST be different. Just as Rich person thinks much differently from a poor person, and great athletes think differently than couch potatoes, in almost every aspect of their lives other than the core human desires of survival, wanting connection and love etc…

By your email address I’m guessing you’re a model and you are attractive. If so then you have no idea what I am talking about becuase it is your natural reality and you think it’s also everyone else’s but it’s not. And unless you have been less attractive in the past you have no point of reference or contrasting experience to understand it by.

That’s why some of the coolest women I have met were ugly ducklings that became beautiful swans. That experience gave them compassion for others, and appreciation & gratitude for what they now have, and also time to develop themselves on the inside as they grew into their beauty.

The saddest case is the woman that has been beautiful all of her life and never needed  nor took the time to develop her inner self or personality, often rude and demanding, with a huge ego. When her looks start to fade and there is nothing on the inside she has no value to anyone at all, as who wants to be with a shallow, selfish, demanding, ego maniac that not all that hot anymore. After all she was really only good for one thing and sometimes not even good at that. ;o)

Anyway I am going to be interviewing some very attractive women starting with a friend of mine that does have a heart of gold and is not only a very beautiful women model but also a mother of 2 sons.

I hope this answers your question.

Nico”

PS: To those few rare women that are beautiful both on the inside and out I salute you and thank you as you make the world a better place and truly inspire us as men to be better ourselves.

PPS: When I speak of beauty, beauty is in the eye of the boholder, however what I am talking about in this article is the general concenus of what is considered beautiful in the American Culture where I live. How ever no matter if you are in a tribe in africa where being fat with bones in your nose or in the moutains of the amazon were certain marking are considered more attractive, if you are considered beautiful what I said applies.

I wrote an blog post on my myspace blog (See Below) and one of my student came up with some really great questions that I decided I would also share the answers 2 on here.

The Blog Post:
For every girl that has a broken heart...

For every girl that has a broken heart…over some lying, cheating, jerk that treated her like crap. There are 10 nice guys that are heart broken because they have never even been given a chance, because they are invisible, because they are too nice.

Women have the power to change the world and make it a better place but they don’t do it. If women would not have sex with men that are thugs, gangsters, crooks, unethical, and dishonest. Those men would either die out or change their ways.

But women don’t do that in fact many women get into relationships with men in prison or repeat offenders as soon as the get on death row. They run back to those that abuse them.

A convicted wife beater once said “Women are like dogs the more you beat them the more they love you!”

Yet most smart, nice, honest, guys can’t get laid to save their life. Unless they make it big and get rich or famous. Will it ever change?

His Question:

An interesting question, Nico, but here is another one; You, Nico, you seem to get a lot of attention from women… and I know that you are not ’some lying, cheating, jerk that treated her like crap’. You would not do that. So is it safe to assume that you are ‘rich or famous’?

Also I don’t believe in that ‘dogs/women love you more when you beat them theory’. I respectfully disagree with that ‘convicted wife beater’… I have come across some legal reports where battered wives set their husbands on fire while they were asleep as an act of revenge. I don’t think being violent is the best way to get unconditional love from your woman (or your dog). lol.

My answer:

Those are some very good questions…You lawyers always seem to come up with some good ones…lol

1. While I’m not Rich & Famous (but working on it…lol) I’m not poor and in some social circles I am fairly recognizable.

2. I also don’t condone the abuse or beating of women, dogs (or any other animal) or even other men unless in self-defense. And in extreme cases where the abuse is very bad or over a very long period of time they often turn on the person and attack back, both women and dogs. But the fact remains women do run back to abusive men over and over again.

So how is it that according to what I have said above that I attract women?

Those Abusive Men and Jerks also have some other good qualities that women are attracted to such as…

Taking charge, Confidence, standing their ground, putting her in her place when she gets out of line, and high inner status a sense of humor, very sexually aggressive, all of which are classic alpha male qualities. I assume most also have a soft side as well.

Well I also have those traits albeit I worked hard to develop many of them as I was raised without a father figure, most of my life. I just don’t have the abusive or violent side.

So a man like me is what most of those women are really looking for as far as qualities go (looks on the other hand are subjective, I may or may not be physically attractive depending on the woman image of what she deems attractive) As those women generally are not looking to be abused (some however are or have a subconscious pattern than makes them seek abuse over and over again.)

But when I was younger and stupid I used to punch holes in walls, throw cell phones at the ground and break shit (always my own stuff) until I realized that it was costing me too much money and grew up.

But some women like that stupid shit, well let’s not say they actually like it, but it does give them something to talk about with all of their girlfriends and keep you in their mind all day…lol It also keeps them wondering “What crazy stupid thing is he going to do next!” As opposed to the boring smart, even tempered nice guy who is predictable and did I mention boring.

Drama equals excitement for some people. Why did I do it because I felt I need to show someone how upset I was. Yes it was immature, and stupid but you know what I never had a girl leave me for it. It provides a emotional roller coaster that they most often are more than happy to ride.

Think about it women love to watch soaps (Drama), read romance novels (Drama), talk about their friends problems (Drama). Most of them are basically Drama junkies and nice guys are to boring.

So to some it up I have many of the Alpha Male traits. I’m not boring because of my lifestyle, have social proof and I have the soft side as well.

Does that mean all women will be attracted to me. No, the women that are truly attracted to hardcore abusive men that look like white trash, thugs will not be into me. And the gold diggers looking for a free ride also not find much here as I am not out to buy anyone.

Smart women generally love me because unlike most of the guys they are attracted to physically I can talk about things other than, bands, trucks, and extreme sports and actually like to hear what they have to say. The only problems is most really hot women are not that smart because everyone let’s them slide by on their looks so they have no reason to develop their mind.

The thing that still amazes me is women that are attracted to men that look, like white trash, act like what trash, talk like white trash, start fights or has a history of hitting women. And then they are surprised when they get hit or beaten Or maybe it’s the excitement and drama wondering “Is he going to hit me?”

Barack Hussein Obama is now our next president of the united states and while I did not vote for him and I do not think he was the best choice. I truly hope that I and all of those other people that felt as I did are wrong and that he turns out to be one of the best presidents we have ever had in this country.

I also hope that he turns out to be a Bill Clinton and NOT a Jimmy Carter or worse incarnation of the Democratic party. I also hope Obama and his advisers have the intelligence and insight to not raise taxes until the economy is out of this recession.

A lot of people are freaking out right now, and are in dis-belief and thinking “how can people be so stupid and ignorant and do this to our country” I have talked with some and they are truly in fear. Why? Because they are old enough to know what true Socialism and Marxism are. They are people that have lived and seen a lot, not the inexperienced first time voters that gave Obama the turnout he needed to win.

I personally am setting aside all of my preconceived notions about Obama to see what he actually does and what kind of president he turns out to be.

I am really happy for all of the African-Americans and minorities that feel vindicated and I hope this motivates them not to lean on the Government, but to realize the real message here is that in America anything is possible and that the race or color card is no longer applicable and a valid excuse for your problems and lack of success in your life and now is the time to take responsibility for your problems and life and change them.

I also hope the Republican Party wakes up and realizes that as they are now the party is dead and that if they ever want to be in power again they will have to re-invent them self into a new Republican Party that is based on creating less government, lower taxes and giving people their personal freedoms such as the right to marry who you what to marry, the right of a woman to make the choice to have a baby or an abortion and that the decision should between her and God and not the government.

A party that will look to profit by helping people, and realize profit is not profit at all if it is at the expense of our people and our environment. That will NOT be controlled by Big Business but will create a business environment where all businesses can thrive big and small as long as they are providing real value and not causing harm to the people they are profiting from.

A party that will provide better health care, by allowing alternative medicine to exist rather than be stamped out by the FDA and big pharmaceutical companies.A party that wants a strong military to protect OUR country, but not to be the world police force and to follow the founding fathers desire for neutrality in other nations matters and that we must take care of our country first.

I am hoping for the best from both parties in the future and only time will tell if this was a great moment in history or a rash decision made by people and voting for someone just becuase of his color and out of desperation for change. Change is NOT always a good thing. George bush made a lot of changes.

PS: And for you guys that voted for him, no whining if your taxes go up and you paycheck shrinks becuase many analysts have already said he can’t do what he wants to do with out raising taxes on the middle class, or if we get into a war and he starts a draft (both men and women 18-40 like he said he would if there was one) or he makes some radical changes that you did not expect.

Zack asks…

“I always see the hottest chicks with the same old boring dudes with the short hair cut. But I love standing out! I use to spike my hair but I felt like I looked like every one else. I see you have long hair and I’m curious about your success.

What do you think should I grow my hair out or cut it short?”

I have not had time to update my pictures or do any new videos lately but I have cut my hair it’s about half way up my neck and the sides down to my chin which is still considered long by today standards and styles. (But it’s not considered long by most men with long hair until it’s past you shoulders.)

First I have to say that the reason I have had long hair most of my life is also that I felt I looked like everyone else. And other men with long hair often feel the same way which is why they grow it out.

At times in the past long hair has been a major advantage for men in attracting women especially in the 80’s and early 90’s then after that it was not in style.

Because mass media i.e.  MTV, movies dictate to society what is cool, long hair (past the shoulders) has been out for quite awhile. It’s starting to come back in again though. If you look at the young rockstars starting to come up many have longer hair, the 15-16 year old boys are growing their hair long.

Which leads me to the next point. The girls attracted to long hair right now are15-16 year old (girls because it’s cool to have long hair again in that age range but only if it’s that skinny emo rocker look.) Then on the other end 35-45 year old rocker chicks that still think it’s the 80’s will be drooling over you.  So you will mostly attract underage girls that could get you in trouble or older women that you probably don’t want to attract in the first place. (In all fairness there are a few, a very few, older women 35-45 that are really hot if they have taken care of them self. And they are much better in bed than the younger women)

Most hot women in the age range of 21-34 DON’T like long hair. It’s an instant turn off to them. Sure there are 2% of those hot women that instantly like long hair but they are far and few between.

Why did I cut my hair. The same reason I believe Chris Angel did I think. Which was to attract a younger and hotter demographic. I checked out his myspace page, Nick Manning’s (porn Star) page and other guys that had similar looks.  Most of the comments were from older women on all of the pages of that I looked at.

So I would not recommend long hair for attracting women. Why set obstacles in your path.

Now if you have game and are interesting and really look good with long hair you can over come it. I did. I have had many women tell me that they did not like long hair on guys but they liked it on me and hooked up with me and yes they were hot.
(To see the kind of women that I date, hook up with and are my friends and my different hair styles visit my personal blog look at “my pics” http://nicosimonprincely.com/blog/)

Bottom line if you want long hair do it for you, that’s why I did it and I actually felt more confident with long hair at one point so that made me more attractive to women.

You will find some women that love it, some will hate it, some will do you just because it’s different and some will absolutely not hook up with you because you have long hair. I have experienced all of the above personally.

In the next 3 years those 16 year olds that like it will be 18-19 so maybe then it will pay off then.

Attraction Tip #1:
If you want to attract a certain type of woman look at the type of men they go for. If all of the hot chicks are going for guys with short boring hair then that’s what they are attracted to. Don’t think by growing long hair you are going to swoop in there and take those short haired guys women. Those women are with them because that is what they want.

Just like here in Vegas most of the women go for guys covered in Tattoos and a Mohawk is a big turn on for them. So don’t think your going to be mister GQ and take all of their women I have heard women say here “I HATE PRETTY BOYS!” They actually prefer ugly men (by conventional standards).

But I am not about to get a bunch of tats and walk around with my hair looking like a Rooster to get laid. Sorry that’s just not me. But remember looks is only a part of what attracts women and not the most important one.

Attraction Tip #2:
You will also see that I had blonde hair at one time. Some women loved it! Some Hate it! You can never please everyone so just please yourself and do what makes you feel most confident and happy but, look well groomed even if you like the rough scroungy look there is a way to do it right. A good example is Johnny Depp who bounces back and forth from long to short all of the time and clean cut to scroungy and women love it all.

Here is a clip from the new course I am recording right now on the psychology of attraction. Please let me know what you think and I will be posting other clips soon.

This course will go into detail about what creates attraction and…

• Give you an understanding of how women think
• What an alpha male is and what is his traits and how to display those traits
• Why nice guys don’t get laid  and what the nice guy/wussy traits are
• Why some men are naturals and what to do if your not one
• The most powerful forces that create attraction
• What women are attracted to specifically
• Why women love jerks, bad boys, Musicians, Actors, Dj’s and Jocks!
• How to Create Attraction
• Why women lose attraction to men and dump them.
• and much much more!

I hope to release the course in the next 30 days. But man this is a lot of work and it’s not easy to put this together.

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